Past that keeps coming up

About 2 years ago me and my partner went through something,

im not going to get into full detail but

he was speaking to some people and hiding it from me because he felt ashamed. He was sharing photos and what not ( I’m sure you know what of )

, he was doing this due to self image, not feeling good enough etc.

unfortunately he said back then that I was scary to talk to about these things and he felt like he couldn’t open up to me. And to me is honestly understandable. I went and found all this out myself which was unfortunate and lead to a lot of different issues between us one being big trust issues on my head. It was a hard decision to stay and put in the hard yards but it’s been two years now and he really has changed, we are really open with eachother and what goes on. ( we have had lots of energy and therapy together for this )

I know how far he has come,

he gets sick at the thought of everything he did and put me and himself through, and when he speaks his so much more mature in that area.

nevertheless

there’s days where I have flashbacks and think man, how dare he?
( not trying to cause any anger or resentment because so much has passed ) and I just cannot believe it until it passes again.

does anyone have any advice towards these feelings and thoughts ?
and how to make it not happen I guess?

Maybe im trying to state the impossible 😅