Mara_SContributor
Leaving 2nd failed marriage
Struggling with everything at the moment. It is time to leave my husband. And I feel so embarrassed. These things are not really accepted in our culture. Add to that it is my second marriage and well.. this is hard
But it's harder to stay. Years of being isolated due to workload - and now accused of being antisocial since I have no friends.
Having to work to support to support myself and the kids with the majority of bills while he built up savings for a house.
Accuses me if having accomplished nothing in my life because I don't have the same savings. Dumping all his invoicing and bookkeeping on me and belittling me if there was ever a mistake. Yet he does not have the mental capacity to comprehend this work even at a high level Being accused of being lazy if I were to rest and invoices were not sent. I work long days and many days a week in my work too. It's all about money with this guy. Never had a conversation with anyone in this home. Spends all the time being social on the phone because that's what leads to more work. Never remembers anything about any of us. Not even to ask how an important doctor's appointment went for the kids. Claims he can't remember things. Yet remembers his own rates, appointments.
Even when I tell.hom.we had a specialist appointment, he doesn't ask how it went. Now that things are ending, he somehow remembers a comment someone made on my Facebook wall that was borderline rude years ago... and I had deleted. He remembers this to tell me now that this is how people should treat me
I need to write this all down and share it. For my sanity. So I don't forget in an hour or so when the storm calms for a bit.
I've dealt with a family that constantly lies. The mother doesn't even believe him and had no shame in saying so. Yet I am the bad one, who calls them out for it. Who is always heard on the phone being the mean one because they know how to trigger me and get a reaction.
The straw that broke the camels back? Two of them. MIL had been lying for years that she had cancer to blackmail in visiting her so she can see her grandkids. 3 cancer incidents. The last one turned out to be a real one. How can I be the only one who sees through the lies all these years. I am accused of being disrespectful for wanting to keep my distance as I don't like the constant lies. A heart attack here (that was actually just a dizzy spell), a cancer there (was only a colonoscopy to identify potential low iron issues). The lies.
I don't expect you to read through all this drama. But needed to put it out there. To hold myself accountable for my next actions. I've delayed for so long. I have had health issues that did and .at in the future affect my ability to work enough to support the kids.
The threats and warnings that I will get nothing mean nothing to me. I've done this before and can get through it again. Hopefully . It has to. My 2 younger kids are neurodiverse and deserve a happier home environment.
