2017 !!!

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@Appleblossom wrote:

Hi @Former-Member

I have lots planned for next year.

It is a great sign for me .. having a future and letting it happen.

I am a bit like you @Former-Member

in that my plans and mh is a bit related to my adult child.. but I am working on setting him free and letting go ...

I think your daughter and my son are quite different personalities though ..

great thread @BlueBay

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Hi @Appleblossom - for your sake I hope they are different. When you say you have plans of letting your son go - do you mean physically, emotionally or both? I am trying to do the same but worry for her well being. But it's time to think of my own well being also and she needs to grow up and stop using me. How do we intertwine both? I grow weary of it. It's the emotional letting go that is hard for me...would appreciate to hear how you are working on letting your son go. My daughter's life's is taking over mine nearly completely at the moment, could do with some tips. I think she doesn't want to go because she has it too good....

Definitely time to think of you @Former-Member

The word "user" was a common one bandied around by kids when growing up .. so I started talking about it in generalisations .. as nobody wants to be used .. and nobody wants someone they love to be a user ... just put it into the vocab .. about ways of being in the world... it is simple .. and colloquial .. and is very relevant to starting and choosing romantic partners ..

I have been thinking about letting go a lot as similar to weaning with breast feeding .. small steps .. but cover all the bases

The need to know a bit about safe sex .. not just regarding virus transmission .. but respect for each other

about money management and how much things really are

\what is needed for a viable life .. not keeping up with Joneses ..

I will always be a fall back .. if he needs me .. but not the main game any more

I am safe and boring .. go find something more interesting

Zero tolerance for abuse .. we have been approaching that .. so I am relieved

You can always tell her you will always love and forgive her .. but that abuse damages it for both of you.

Actually no one wants to be an abuser either .. it does not feel nice .. its a lose lose .. they need to grow through the toddler temper tantrums... but its about context ..

@Former-Memberyou as mum know best.

Gotta go .. son wants me to shop ... HEY that is a win ..

Thank you @Appleblossom - you explained how you are letting go brilliantly and I do see similarities in circumstances with our adult children. Your advice for me was near perfect, especially zero tolerance for abuse - I am going to follow your lead in all the ways you are planning to let go as it is nearly a replica of what I need to do. This has really helped me and when you have time I would like to read your further future thoughts and actions in this undertaking. As sometimes all my resources have been exhausted to no good end (hitting head against brick wall), and I don't know what to do next. Thank you so much for taking the time to support me my friend 💕

Wow @Former-Member - that is one impressive list of goals. You have really grown - that's my girl. I always had faith in you, good to see you now have that in yourself also. Your a good caring person, keep going on that path and all your goals and dreams will come to reality in time ❤️🌹

Well it's the 31st of December 2016. I've come to the forum looking for a New Year thread and here it is. 🙂

I have just one goal for the new year: to give up weed again. Gave it up completely for 6 months this year (after 20 years of using), which was a great achievement. Unfortunately, I picked up the habit again at a moment of emotional stress. Since then I haven't used quite as heavily as I used to, which is some consolation. Haven't had any today, for example. But January 1st is my new deadline to completely quit again. That's from midnight tonight, just hours away now.

Aside from that, I'm not so big on the looking back on the old year and planning for the new. I am more about letting go of the past year and seeing the new year as an opportunity for a clean slate. A fresh new year to explore. It's my favourite time of year really. 🙂

So, in this spirit, I wish everyone a happy new year!!! 😄

Sending special greetings to old friends like @eth, @PeppiPatty, @Appleblossom, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member and many others I haven't listed but still remember from time to time. ❤️

Hi @Mazarita ..... you were just on my mind ,.. ❣

I was busy looking for a thread to post a hug to you on .... and stumbled across your call-out here ....

🤗🤗🤗❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕🐠🐠🐠💐💐💐❣

I hope 2017 is kind to you, and you dump the weed with great aplomb at midnight (your time 😊)

I am travelling at the moment .... a few hours behind you ....

🌷💜

Only yesterday I embedded you gorgeous videos that you did on my poems ....And wrote how much I missed you.

How wonderful that you are here.

Don't worry too much on the pot.....your giving up again, amybe you can give up for a bit longer or differently this time ?

My new years resolutions? Not dreaming of beat my husband up for not letting me sleep all day.

My youngest son keeps on trying to stop the green but falls back into it.....I always think of you when I hear of how hard it is for him.

Good to see you @Mazarita

PP

Hope your 2017 is full of kindness @Mazarita

All the best with your goal!

Thank you for thinking of me

Ahimsa - Namaste,

Anna