Top Things NOT to say to yourself - challenging negative self talk

Ok, so I started a discussion about 9 things not to say to someone with MI - statements that we hear from other people who just don't get it.

But I've recently started to ponder, what about unhelpul things we say to ourselves? Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy. It can be so pervasive because in a sense, things that we say to ourselves can be invisible (our internal dialogue) and automatic, which can affect how feel about ourselves and others, and how we behave.

I'm guilty of saying things like:

- "People won't like me or things I do/say"

- "I'm not good enough"

"I'm being unreasonable (particularly when voicing my needs)"

I found this interesting article by Mike Brundrant that list Top 10 negative self-talk statements. Can anyone relate to these? Or perhaps you might have other things that you say to yourself?

For me, my negative self-talk statements create stress and I can feel anxious in social situations. I always have to catch myself, remind myself to practice what I breach. I often ask myself, 'what would I tell my best friend if they said these things', and/or I challenge the truth of what I think.

In this article Jancee Dunn discusses some ways to 'silence your inner critic'. Dunn suggests things like 'give your inner critic a name' and to 'embrace' your imperfections'. What about you? What do you say to your own self-talk? @Alessandra1992 @kristin @Loopy @Rick @Uggbootdiva @PeppiPatty @Aonaran @SCORPION I understand that you posted in the 9 things not to say to someone with MI. Do you have any thoughts on things not to say to ourselves?

CB