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Anger

Blue13Contributor02 Feb 2024, 9:35 pm AEDT

Anger

Hi guys, I’m looking for some tips and advice for my anger issues. I am trying to manage them the best I can before getting any “ professional “ help.

I didn’t grow up in the best home, I struggled a lot with my family and I always adapted to anything I saw because at the end of the day, that’s all you know,

right!

I grew up seeing fighting all the time, screaming, physically abuse, for so long and it felt ok. Until I got a little older and it just started to feel wrong, I found different ways to project and handle myself but yet, I can’t seem to break habit that I grew up with which is, the screaming and fighting. I feel like I lash out a lot at every situation, with screaming, yelling, saying things I don’t mean.

I have someone special in my life, we have been together for awhile and we are living together, everytime I am angry at life, work, family, my lifestyle, choices, etc. I tend to lash out on Him. I hardly ever lash out on a family member or friend, but for some reason when it comes to him I go all out. Maybe it is because I love this person and I’m comfortable?.

I say things I don’t mean, I lash out and have anxiety, I have panic attacks every now and again, I yell, I just feel shaky and I feel like running in a panic.
That’s probably my flight or fight mode kicking in but never the less, I want to break the habit.

I want to learn how to control my anger.
I would like anger management help or tips or any advice at all.

I am always sadly very regretful.

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tymeModerator04 Feb 2024, 4:43 pm AEDT

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I also want to say that anger itself is not 'bad'. I think it's about learning to understand the anger. I used to hate myself because of my explosive anger. Every time I was angry, I felt guilty. Anger has its place. However, abuse and violence to another is not okay. This is the part I struggled with.

I'll be honest. Today. was an ANGRY day for me @Blue13 . As 'well' as I am, today was still an 'angry' day. I said things I regret. I did things I'm not proud of. This is something I need to work on.

You are not alone.

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wordmanSenior Contributor04 Feb 2024, 5:33 pm AEDT

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@Miss-wish Thank you for your response. It appears you live in a complex space, having to deal with a lot of stuff. I hope you and your daughter find the healing you deserve. Having suffered schizophrenia myself i knew that psychiatrists were of no help whatsoever. I found healing within myself. i too, for a while did not feel apart of this world. I may belong to it but i don't feel a part of it. Having said that i still wanted to function in a normal way. I have managed to achieve function with as much normality as anyone else. I hope your daughter can maintain normality amongst her ailments. Don't despair as it is perfectly achievable to be normal.

I will ask this. If your daughter was telling people what she felt at 8 years of age why can't she do that now ? Is it because she just believes no one will listen and therefore she just doesn't bother. your daughter may very well think that no one listens, and this is true to an extent, however she should not shut herself off from the world as the world is a wonderful place regardless what mental ailment we suffer.

Kind Regards

Wordman

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