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I'm so sorry about your dads death. I fear what would happen if my father died.
I get the web of lies that happens, and it can be hard to try and work out what the truth is. It can get really frustrating.
I've distanced myself emotionally from my parents and lately they have been better at recognising boundaries I've put in place.
Have you ever considered speaking to a psychologist about this and seeing what help they can provide?

Had a good time though @Former-Member (mostly). Just did way too much, trying to keep up with daughter. Haha!
Out all day until late night, most days. Lots to do and see.

My dad was the rock so yes I had a lot to do with him and mum and my we all live 3 hours apart but my mum is the one on the phone lying and then the phone calls come with abuse

Yes am currently thinking I have to do something it's is only short time and I throught the family would be together longer than just the day of funeral but nope at the wake my mum told lies and I got abused at my dads funeral she didn't bother with me for funeral plans two of us there's 4 of us but two are just horrible my other sister has gone down hill and is currently in hospital she called me up before Christmas we spoke she was crying what did we do to pushed away she is now 38 kgs in a bad place in hospital and my mum doesn't care I no my mum is grieving but she not has once asked how any one is its all about her my poor sister is terribly sick I couldn't bare if anything more happens

Limit the amount of time you spend on the phone. You don't have to put up with abuse.
I guess I just learned to walk away from the relationships emotionally. I also found that if I didn't push my mum's buttons sue didn't react as negatively. She's gotten a lot better as she has aged. I really recommend seeing a psychologist to help you manage the relationship. I learnt a lot about setting boundaries and protecting myself emotionally.

Thanks for talking to me my mum called me up plea for help I spent 3 days helping then she calls my brother and says I annoyed her so I copped a verbal abuse today , my other sister has also sent verbal abuse email it's too much dad would be horrified

My poor dad for abused a lot by my mum horrible words she said and I witnessed this for 7 yrs this so the problem I moved away 9 moths before his Passing he was following but he didn't make it I feel much guilt for moving away but my mum made my life difficult for so long I had to go

No worries @Ios!
I just try to remember that my siblings have their own issues and believe the lies they are fed so their reaction at least makes sense. I wish I could help more!

I appreciate your reply thanks for being a good person