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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member. Sorry to hear it's been a tough week for you. And it does sound like it will be ongoing with your pet for a long time.
So you may need a plan so that you are getting as much 'time out' as is possible in this situation.
A quiet cafe to enjoy a coffee and get out of the house for an hour.
Taking a walk - around the block - to the park - to the shops.
Focusing on what you can see & smell & touch when you are walking. Putting all your attention on the plants you can see. What do they smell like? Etc.
Selfcare is so important for your overall health. Remember to do some breathing exercise or meditation.
I know it's hard right now with your sick pet. So be sure to take some 'me time' everyday.
So you may need a plan so that you are getting as much 'time out' as is possible in this situation.
A quiet cafe to enjoy a coffee and get out of the house for an hour.
Taking a walk - around the block - to the park - to the shops.
Focusing on what you can see & smell & touch when you are walking. Putting all your attention on the plants you can see. What do they smell like? Etc.
Selfcare is so important for your overall health. Remember to do some breathing exercise or meditation.
I know it's hard right now with your sick pet. So be sure to take some 'me time' everyday.
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utopiaSenior Contributor
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
@Former-Member. I'm sorry. I do tend to be a 'what can we do to fix this' type of person. But I will keep in mind that you did just need to vent and be heard. Sorry.
and yes, I have experienced that extreme levelpf aanxiety where it's hard enough to get air in my lungs - but no coping techniques of mine work. I've ended up screaming into my pillow and stomping around the house.
I do hope the vets do get their act together soon and sort out the best strategy for you and your pet.
Hope you have a great easter.
and yes, I have experienced that extreme levelpf aanxiety where it's hard enough to get air in my lungs - but no coping techniques of mine work. I've ended up screaming into my pillow and stomping around the house.
I do hope the vets do get their act together soon and sort out the best strategy for you and your pet.
Hope you have a great easter.
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
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Hi @Former-Member, I'm sorry to hear things are so tough for you right now. Having a sick pet is super stressful and it definitely wouldn't help if you struggle to communicate with your vet. I am grateful that I have an awesome vet. I have a feeling she may be as aspie as I am - she can be very blunt and doesn't suffer fools well...but by golly I trust her with the lives of my critters.
Regarding the topic that you tagged me about...I generally find slow breathing helpful. However, if I am SUPER dysregulated, then I tend to go with rocking and verbally stimming. I don't think there is any one way that we "should" use to regulate, and different things definitely work for different people. I don't do a lot of meditation as such. That is, aside from the smiling mind app, which I really like, I haven't really found guided meditation to be my thing. On the other hand, I super like doing mindfulness stuff such as sitting in the garden listening to the birds, or lying on the floor and focusing on the feeling of the carpet as I rub my hand against it - stuff like that. My understanding is that this sort of mindfulness is a skill that takes practice - most people aren't great at it straight up. I think I have a natural advantage in this regard because I need such a low level of sensory input to feel ok. What I mean is, I think a lot of people get bored really quickly doing something like focusing on the sounds of the birds, and then their mind wanders to all their worries etc. However, something as simple as listening to the birds totally consumes my attention.
The trick with this sort of mindfulness is that when you recognise your mind is wandering, you consciously bring your attention back to the point of focus (such as the birds). You don't get frustrated or anything that your mind has wandered, you simply bring it back to the point of focus. It definitely takes practice and, like anything, the more you do it, the better you get at it.
Having said all of that, I find that sometimes, like @utopia said, a good scream into a pillow is the way to go! 
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travellerSenior Contributor
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Hi Seuss, its Traveller the moderator here. i will email you so we can have a chat..Regards Traveller
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member
Just trying that again @Former-Member ......
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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hi everyone
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Love, love, love your new avatar @Former-Member .... ❤️
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thanks @Faith-and-Hope thought it was time for a change
