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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Yes .... and I am glad she is feeling safe here to stamp her feet .....
My cold has come on like a freight train tonight .... I expect the worst of it will pass overnight. Headed to bed now myself .....
Have you watched "The King's Speech" ? It's got your wit and humour written all over it .... just finished it now.
G'night ..... 💤
My cold has come on like a freight train tonight .... I expect the worst of it will pass overnight. Headed to bed now myself .....
Have you watched "The King's Speech" ? It's got your wit and humour written all over it .... just finished it now.
G'night ..... 💤
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Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
@Former-Member, hi stranger. Read your post, glad you got it out - those 'animals' should be terminated. Don't know why we walk away with lingering 'shame' from trauma that is clearly NOT your fault (love a psych opinion on that), maybe shame comes because it FEELS like a punishment - like we've done something wrong. It wasn't your fault Bella! they took advantage of your trust and innosence, to steal your inner beauty - the divine within - your love for self and humanity. God will deal with them - there will be a reckoning. In the meantime, when this comes back to poison you - stop, take a seat, breathe deep, take a minute to acknowledge the inner you & comfort her. I have a rocking chair I sit and hold my heart - say 'I hear you, it hurts! and rhythmically pat my chest with self compassion until it eases.
I feel for you, and relate to - how past trauma intrudes into the present moment uninvited and replays in the mind like an horror movie, bit this one is real, personal and takes captive the whole being... ... I know it well - you're not alone, wish i could give you a hug right now.
You said: "I'm just wondering if the triggering happens to others on the forum, and I'm wondering if the triggering ever ends?"
Yes
Sorry, triggering happens to me. Songs are powerful as they engage the emotions. Smells and weather trigger me badly too. It gets confusing for me sometimes, when the crushing feelings come without the mind memory to put it in perspective - it takes me a minute to realise what's going on and bring my heart back to present moment responses. Hopefully before I've implode, or explode, leaving an unwanted mess to fix grr
Yes & No - triggering ever ends, but its power over you diminishes, fluctuates and basically becomes manageable. I found ACT Mindfulness Grounding techniques & Self Compassion the most helpful.
Hope this helps Bella, gotta run, hugzz xox
I feel for you, and relate to - how past trauma intrudes into the present moment uninvited and replays in the mind like an horror movie, bit this one is real, personal and takes captive the whole being... ... I know it well - you're not alone, wish i could give you a hug right now.
You said: "I'm just wondering if the triggering happens to others on the forum, and I'm wondering if the triggering ever ends?"
Yes
Sorry, triggering happens to me. Songs are powerful as they engage the emotions. Smells and weather trigger me badly too. It gets confusing for me sometimes, when the crushing feelings come without the mind memory to put it in perspective - it takes me a minute to realise what's going on and bring my heart back to present moment responses. Hopefully before I've implode, or explode, leaving an unwanted mess to fix grr
Yes & No - triggering ever ends, but its power over you diminishes, fluctuates and basically becomes manageable. I found ACT Mindfulness Grounding techniques & Self Compassion the most helpful.
Hope this helps Bella, gotta run, hugzz xox
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Unknown userMember
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
It's ok @TAB 
You don't need to know what to say. Just acknowledging it is fine, well, you don't even have to do that, but thankyou.
I didn't tag you, because I thought it might make you uncomfortable, but it's a bit hard to miss the message, lol.
Thankyou for your message. I did eventually go to sleep and I'm having kaffe and toast and going to try and sleep a bit more. I hope you day goes well today. TAB 
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Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Haha! @TAB I won't stamp my feet.
Thankyou for your kind messages @Faith-and-Hope and @Former-Member 
Sorry your cold got worse. Sleep well, that will help you a bit, Faith.
I'm so tired that I can't think what to write. I'm going to try and sleep a bit more.
Still feeling teary, but it will pass.
There are alot of songs from the past that trigger me stil, I don't like hearing any of them, so, if possible I turn it off, or remove myself. 70's and 80's music affects me the most. Years of depression, from abuse etc................I wish to forget. Places trigger me too, but it is getting easier. Alot easier, couldn't visit certain places for years. Healing does happen, slowly.
I have tried persevering and listening to the songs to see if it helps get rid of the feellings (like, desensitize, but it hasn't worked for me).
love and hugs to you both. xoxoxoxxo
Are you ok @Former-Member ? You've had an amazingly busy, emotional week. You'll need a big rest when you get home. xoxo Thankyou for taking time to message me, when you've got so much on. Oh and you have alot on and aren't well either Faith. Oh my gosh! And Herr @TAB 's not feeling well. We all need a rest, lol.
Catch you later today, perhaps. See how we go. xo
That certianly is enough of talking about me, lol.
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TABSenior Contributor
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Lol Good Morning @Former-Member 😀 Well it is here
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TABSenior Contributor
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Hope you are okay @Former-Member
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Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Meow! lol. @TAB
Just had my 2nd cuppa and wholemeal pumpkin scone with jam, which I made last night. Time for me to do washing, chores etc.
I guess I'm ok, thanks, I have to be ok, lol.
My life often is triggered, I should be used to it by now. Songs, places, etc. Like I mentioned, it does get easier. I just can't dwell on how crappy my life HAS been. The past is the past. I just wish my body would co operate with me and feel well, lol.
Are you feeling ok today?
If I disappear, I have to go and do things.
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TABSenior Contributor
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Sounds yum @Former-Member and that sounds positive.. yeah am ok thanks. Not asking too much of self today, feeling better than yesterday, maybe meds giving body a break
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Hi @Former-Member @TAB @Former-Member ..... 😊💕
Early hours of the morning here .... have been awake on and off all night with WH's bug .... but I was expecting to have one bad night, so hopefully that was it ! I'm not great, but much better than last night before bed. Turned a corner .....
Your pumpkin scones sound nice @Former-Member ..... you are doing so well with getting up and on with life .... I am glad you have felt safe with us to talk about these past traumas, and I hope that feeling like it's not a secret here, even though you can't share it with your girl, and presumably others, will help you to heal those old wounds.
Thinking of you .... more hugs ..... ☕️🍪(okay .... it's not a scone .... but let's pretend .... ) ❤️💕
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Unknown userMember
Re: Anyone feel like chatting? Coffee/Tea ☕💕
Oh, you haven't slept much @Faith-and-Hope 😮
I've noticed you have messaged here and there when you're supposed to be sleeping. 😯
I hope your day will be a big rest day for you.
Love and hugs to you. 😙💕🌷🌼🌹🌸
Thanks for caring re: my trauma stories, Faith and Hope. I have plenty, lol, but not really, lol. Have to laugh and joke in between though. Otherwise what's the point to life. 😊
Been feeling all emotions again today, but it has to get easier and easier as time goes by. It does help to chat about it, so I don't feel alone. Thankyou 😙💗👍
How's your day been @TAB ? 😺
Been up to much?
I've noticed you have messaged here and there when you're supposed to be sleeping. 😯
I hope your day will be a big rest day for you.
Love and hugs to you. 😙💕🌷🌼🌹🌸
Thanks for caring re: my trauma stories, Faith and Hope. I have plenty, lol, but not really, lol. Have to laugh and joke in between though. Otherwise what's the point to life. 😊
Been feeling all emotions again today, but it has to get easier and easier as time goes by. It does help to chat about it, so I don't feel alone. Thankyou 😙💗👍
How's your day been @TAB ? 😺
Been up to much?
