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You asked, "why do people lie"' @Former-Member

People lie for many reasons.

To get what they want for themselves.

Selfish.

Sometimes people lie so they won't hurt us. (no excuse though).

I'm guessing that you are talking about your ex Fadin?

I had an ex boyfriend/partner for approx 4 years. He was an expert lier. Because I was brought up to be honest, I would always believe it when he said, sorry, I won't do that again. But he always did. So 4 years later, after much emotional and physical abuse I finally broke up with him.

That was very difficult, as I had no self esteem or confidence and hated the thought of being alone. But there's only so much abuse one can put up with and it was obvious the lies were going to continue.

Funny thing is, I really think that he did want to stop the deception and lies, but just couldn't. I really think that he wanted to change for me, but hard for some people to change a lifetime of lies. Oh well, I'm glad that I never see him anymore.

I am writing this to say, that I think I understand what you are going through with, noticing the lies and deception etc. It does hurt terribly, it is devastating. It took me a very long time to get over that relationship, but now I am healed and it doesn't bother me at all anymore.

In time you will heal too Fadin. I know you are hurting, but in time, your soul will heal.

Do you have someone that you could talk to that would understand? Or a good counsellor that could help you through this?

I know talking about it helped me and I have had some very good counselling.

Hugs to you Fadin, you will get through this. xoxoxo

Hmm! I typed that "it" doesn't bother me anymore @Former-Member

It still does affect me in some ways though.

The relationship definitely contriuted to an inner rage that I have still. I'm still working on that one. Have many reasons to feel rage. I hate the anger and wish it would go away. xoxo

I guess I am still emotionally messed up, lol. My past has contributed to my emotional upheaval. But it is definitely getting better in some ways. At least I'm not severely depressed 24/7.

It will get easier @Former-Member xoxo

Hi @Former-Member

i'm sorry things arent great. It always takes a while for my kids to settle again after they come home from a visit to their dad. My daughter in particular is always angry with me over anything that has been said and done. I think its because i'm the safe person to take out the worries/frustrations on. usually after a day or so of venting she gets really clingy and wants lots of reassurance and time. It breaks my heart that they have to go through what they do and have this life.

when it comes to lies... i think certain people are only able to think of themselves...

hope you're ok,

lj

hi @TAB and @Former-Member

i'm so tired today! can i have a kaffe @Former-Member i might actually need about five.

How are you doing today @TAB

Hi @Shaz51 I was glad to hear that they couldnt find anything wrong with your mum.. but hope that she is ok after such a massive ordeal. she must be exhausted. How are you going?

Bit confused @Former-Member Is your "now" partner lying as well, or are you just meaning your "ex"?

You will get through this, your kids needs you Fadin. I wish you had someone to talk to, but if chatting here helps, that's good. xoxoxo

Kaffe for you @Former-Member xoxo I still haven't done anything here. Trying to get motivated, I always overdo it when I go out.

Good on you for "walkies" @TAB I hope that today will be a better day for you. Yes, put yesterday behind you, I often have to do that with days.

Aww! My new puddy tat appeared, lol. Thanks Mods. xo