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Loneliness

espritSenior Contributor17 Dec 2016, 9:19 pm AEDT

Loneliness

hi
I read an article the other day that talked about how loneliness can be an element in so many illnesses. I'm keeping my self disconnected from people at the moment because of so much disappointment and it feels easier to cope . It's hard to trust so what do you do. I want to have a rich full life but I don't seem to be able to move through my feelings of needing to self isolation.

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Zoe7Senior Contributor18 Dec 2016, 12:39 pm AEDT

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@esprit

And we are all here to provide you with floaties or a life jacket (maybe even an occasional rest in a boat) when the swimming gets too hard!

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Zoe7Senior Contributor18 Dec 2016, 12:56 pm AEDT

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Hi @Former-Member

The only time I really feel safe is when I am on my own. The expectation that something will happen that hurts, annoys, or scares me is so overwhelming at times that I just avoid! It has seemed lately that anything and everything can be a trigger for me so locking myself away (as the evil I know) is better than the unknown.

At times even the walk from the car to the psychologist's - through crowds and traffic is overwhelmimg.

Attempted shopping yesterday and felt more anxious and lonely in the crowds that I do at home on my own. I know it is all in my head - but that is where I have to sort out so much.

Low self-esteem also needs to start ascending that slippery slope without falling too many times. I know that will take time and I believe I am finally giving myself the permission to take that time - no limits, no expectations, no one (other than myself) to answer to or please.

The exercise part is the hardest for me because I get so tired so quickly. I'm not focussing so much on getting moving and regaining my physical strength until after I start reconciling some of my thoughts and emotions and have more motivation and energy to start.

It doesn't matter, for the first time in my life, how long it takes, I give myself permission to heal and move forward.

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espritSenior Contributor18 Dec 2016, 1:25 pm AEDT

Re: Loneliness

Zoe your words resonated with me. It's makes me feel as if my reactions to things is a kind of self preservation and that it ok. Thank you so much xx

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Zoe7Senior Contributor18 Dec 2016, 1:34 pm AEDT

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@esprit You are welcome!

So pleased my own experiences have connected with you in some small way. We can't always know or understand what each other is going through but we can help each other work out in our own minds what is happening for ourselves. Keep me up-to-date on how you are travelling. Sending hugs xxx

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