Struggling to trust again after some more recent trauma

Hello @Hopefulsoul

Yes it is hard to trust again after being betrayed as a child and when it gets into adult life.

I hope that you are able to recover from this recent experience. Betrayal affects the heart. Its better to have no expectations. What I know from Chinese medicine emotions are paired, and disappointment is linked to expectation and this pair belongs to your heart.

You can’t control the actions of other people, but you can consciously control your expectations of them, just keep repeating ‘no expectation, no expectation’ in all situations. This is what I learnt from a Chinese doctor.

Regardless, disappointment means an expectation of the heart hasn’t been met, and this hurts the heart.

You can also press Pericardium 6, the acupuncture point on the inner wrist, around 3 finger widths from the hand.

According to this chinese doctor I follow he says this point, also known as the ‘inner pass’ is like a back channel to your heart. It automatically creates the connection that the heart is expecting (internally) and this eases the pain affiliated with disappointment (this point is also used for relationship break-ups).

Press from 30 seconds to several minutes. With a bit of practice you can sense repair happening in real time.

Using the energy of your body you can heal.

I'm actually writing a post tomorrow on this very topic on the thread: "New Age Endeavours" which was started by @Oaktree. The topic I am writing about is trust and how to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) which is freely accessible to anyone to clear issues related to breaches of trust.

EFT uses tapping of the meridians of the body and the use of set up phrases which are used as part of biofeedback to dislodge the energetic component of breaches of trust.

Also I will write about using affirmations to rewrite the subconscious and journalling to reflect on how you have arrived to this point in your life.

You are most welcome to read on. I will remember to tag you in my post tomorrow. I hope to see you on the forums tomorrow!

Pericardium 6

Thank you @Former-Member

I will try this today ❤️

Hi @Hopefulsoul @Former-Member

That was a great response @Former-Member

I will tag the thread here so you can just click on the blue link.

New Age Endeavours

I also struggle to trust others and have an especially hard time trusting health professionals. My problem with them is they write stuff down and they don’t always get it right. Just their opinions. I had a traumatic childhood and my parents were both abusive. It makes life as an adult difficult because it’s difficult to find people you can trust. I have a loving husband and I am so grateful for that.
My advice would be to learn to trust carefully and slowly. Not everyone can be trusted. However, there are trustworthy people out there but you need to find them. Maybe try wearing some picasso jasper. @Former-Member says that will help you find your tribe.

I think the whole trust thing is going to have to be a work in progress. I hope one day I learn to trust more too. I guess I am scared of being hurt!

Be kind to yourself.

Meggle

Hey @Hopefulsoul ,

I think most people are scared of being hurt. I know I am, and therefore I grew up with an avoidant personality. Yet I later realised I missed out on life because I avoided most things. Although my personality hasn't changed and I still prefer to avoid things, I have to say I attempt to move outside my own comfort zone in order to grow.

I'd love to get to know you a bit more. Feel free to tag me into your posts at any time. Like this @tyme

@Hopefulsoul

i will just leave this here. We are social mammals. When safe our brains are wired for connection. Trauma re-wires our brains for protection. It is a perfectly normal evolutionary response. Our brains are designed not to keep us happy but to keep us safe. There is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the people who traumatised you. Try not to internalise blame on yourself.

Thank you so much, that's a big part is putting blame and shame on myself like their is something wrong with me.

I needed this reminder 💗

@scruffypuffball , sorry I only just learnt I need to tag for you to receive messages 🫣🤭