lived experience

Thanks LJ. It is hard but her energy also helps to give me a boost to so I guess it's not all bad 😃
Wife went to some sessions with me & appeared to be taking it on board but in the end it always went out the window as soon as I raised the need for a break or when she gets angry. I usually give up or go for a drive in the car tho that can sometimes be a mistake depending on my mood & if we've fought.

Hi @Tricky. I was going to suggest the same as @Former-Member - that your wife attends soms therapy sessions with you. Or maybe she could attend a carer or relative support group - give her a chance to vent as well.
It may be that your wife truly needs a bit of time herself. That pocket rocket probably exhausts her daily. Does your wife get a chance to go out with friends once a week or attend a yoga class etc. It's important for both parents to have free time away from the kids (regardless if we have MI or not).
Do you have family that live nearby. Maybe if your wife needs time with the girls but it's not a great day for you, maybe a family member could come and help you. It's hard with a 6 year old. They need constant supervision.
There needs to be some sort of compromise and arrangement so that both you and your wife can have some free time & together time. Sit down and have an honest talk. Or alternatively, have the chat with the help of a therapist

I didn't lose the job per se I was just pushed sideways which still hurt cos I've been wth them for a long time.
Also, my work is a little different and I'd hope that most work places would be very understanding, especially if you work in the public service.

My wife doesn't work at the moment so she sometimes goes out with friends and other mothers after dropping Alexis at Kindy. Most of the time I'm okay but it can be hard if I'm feeling 'edgy' to deal with work and home.

@Tricky. It's hard when you feel edgy. Not knowing what to do. Why you feel edgy, etc. It's especially hard because your child is still so young. I'm able to sleep when I need to. My son is old enough to manage without me for a while when I need a sleep or time to myself to process things.
Have you found any exercises - physically or relaxation wise that help take the edge off?
It might be time to talk to your therapist about ways you can unwind. Do you have a hobby - maybe ssomething physical - wood working, tinkering with engines etc - that may assist you to focus on something else. Knitting or other craft or art. Any of these your child could also participate in.