Peer Group Chat // Our Values Compass // Thursday 25th January 2024, 7-8:30PM AEDT

Thanks @amber22 - I will be there 🙂

Hi Everyone,

Just a reminder that the next Online Peer Group Chat on Our Values Compass will take place tonight from 7-8:30pm AEDT. As always, for ease of reference, times across Australia are in the graphic and listed below:

Western Australia: 4pm

Northern Territory: 5:30pm

South Australia: 6:30pm

Queensland: 6pm

New South Wales, Victoria, Australian Capital Territory & Tasmania: 7pm

Tonight, you can expect discussion about:

• What our values are and how they can guide our actions
• The benefits of being more aware and intentional with our values
• What the impact might be if we aren’t in alignment with our values

Tagging members who have supported or otherwise interacted with the thread so far as well as those who may be interested to receive a reminder @Cali_Rose @Snowie @chibam @Former-Member @7cough9 @ZoZo94 @Jumbu @Patchworks @PeaceOfficer @Glisten @exploring @Kate15 @Shaz51 @Sunnyside226 @Sapphire2 @Healandlove

If you're not able to attend live tonight or you don't make it, we'd still love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share anything you'd like (within guidelines of course!) here in this thread using the dot points above as guiding prompts if you'd like/ would find that helpful

Just a reminder that our Peer Group Chat on Our Values Compass will start in just 20 minutes at 7pm here! Everyone is welcome! See you then!

Tagging members who have supported or otherwise interacted with the thread so far as well as those who may be interested to receive a reminder: @Cali_Rose @Snowie @chibam @Shaz51 @Bill16 @Birdofparadise8 @Bow @Sunnyside226 @HardWork @Oaktree @Meowmy @Pushka @Former-Member @StuF @creative_writer @Fluttershy1 @Acanthiza @Coco09 @DownTown @Lee81 @MermaidHair @Noodlepop @Rosie01 @Former-Member @outlander @saturnzoon @tonys

Hi Everyone,

in reflecting on values, I realised that for myself, a lot of the values hold, especially those which feel most important to me, are also things that seemed to describe me as a person. has anyone found similar, that your values tend to also describe who you are as a person? How so? I'd be really curious to hear from anyone who would like to share!

@Cali_Rose @RiverSeal @Snowie @Shaz51 @chibam @exploring @Glisten @Loiter @Quilly @Oaktree @Hopefulsoul @Zoe7 @nula_ray @Patchworks @Former-Member @Kate15 @PeaceOfficer @Flowerlove22 @Jumbu @ZoZo94 @7cough9 @8ppleTree

Also in case it helps reflecting on it for yourself, I wanted to share this resource which goes through a few prompts to help identify values 😊.

• @tideiscoming
• Yes, I agree. And this is where we then unconsciously expect people to have the same values as us and get upset when people don't act the same as us (well I tend to, being more on the sensitive side) but this is a reminder to me to not expect, accept and move on. Not to analyse everything.
• My values are, trust, honesty, caring, accountability, respect, sense of adventure and humour (reliability used to be one, I have dropped that as I learnt I would generally try to be constantly reliable for people when rgey weren't they wouldn't return the same) so that was one that had to go. Reliable to the people that matter the most (my partner and family)

Boundaries had to be put in place.

What about you?

• @TideisTurning sorry the reply is above, I done the wrong name 😆🤭

Yes, I agree @TideisTurning our values are who we are as a person ideally but there are times when they either don't fit the situation, or we are not able to live by them perhaps due to how other people treat us. When we lose control or have limited choices in our lives and can't do the things we want or need we can still hold on to our values, but they also might need to be reframed if we can't. Values can be fluid to suit our lives and the moment we are in sometimes or we have many that might relate to different situations.

Just my thoughts about values!!

Take care,

RiverSeal

@TideisTurning 👋🏼 Socialist Pinky Lefto

TBH, I'm not sure I understand the question @TideisTurning . I would've thought it would go without saying that a person's values are the primary factors in defining who they are. People gravitate towards doing what they considder is "right", and are naturally averse to doing what they considder "wrong".

I missed this Peer Group Chat!

Sounds like it was interesting @TideisTurning and @amber22 🙂

I used to be quite rigid with values, and a little bit inconsiderate (read: unwilling to understand why) if someone didn't value my values... however, I realised that my values need to be flexible (within reason), which creates a value buffer zone (the value isn't 'damaged' by someone else not valuing that value), and a flexibility to relate to others' values which are different to my own.. kinda like an overlap, or fuzzy edges, instead of a solid line, or the old 'black and white'.

In doing so, I realised that without fuzzy edges to my values, it meant that I would be less able to be flexible with other peoples values.

I then thought, to save myself the angst of butting up against values that are different, and bouncing off, I could instead see how my values can fit with others values, and there is a more harmonious outcome. This doesn't always work, but in those instances, I can be relaxed and happy knowing I have thought through the decision, with objectivity and some compassion, all because I have fuzzy edges 🙂💜🌺

I hope that makes some kind of sense..? Please feel free to ask questions and I'll be happy to elaborate 🙂