AnondepressedContributor
Should I be worried?
Ok, things ARE getting a bit better, in the way that there is less screaming, and we had a real heart to heart (at least I thought so) a few days ago.
But, twice my GF has gotten home REALLY late from work, since then.
First of all, I think it's UNLIKELY that she's cheating.
Once, I'll willing to let it slide, even though I don't agree, but twice is a pattern and frankly suspicious.
She says I'm annoying...for trying to connect with my partner...?! I hardly see her, so when she's not sleeping, working, or Xbox, then it's fair that that leftover time is for us and us alone...right? It seems not, as I'm noticing that Xbox is more and more. I only started playing as a way to spend more time with her.
Ok, in more detail;
Because of the heat lately, she's been working at night. Ok, nothing suspicious there, fair enough. She leaves at about 8-9pm, after dinner (we collaborate on meals, instead of housemate doing for us), but doesn't get back until the early hours of the morning.
Now, she has me get text messages when she's working, a safety measure that's been added to keep the workers safe, like an emergency contact, I guess. According to those, she works until 4am, then clocks off.
But, she won't come home until the sun comes up, around 6.30-7am. She only works about 15 minutes driving time away, so EVEN if she decides to watch that night's news, (about 30 minutes or so), there is STILL a time discrepancy. I can't help but feel uneasy (maybe it's just coz this is all new?), and frankly don't want to push her about it, as I know that will end in a fight.
She has complained that our room is small, she's got to climb over me to get into bed. Well, I fixed that a long time ago by simply switching our pillows so that she doesn't have to worry about climbing over and possibly disturbing me. I did that before going to bed, in hope that she WOULD just climb in next to me. She didn't, and frankly I don't know if I should keep doing that.
This simple act of sleeping in the same bed is soothing and a given in serious relationships, yeah? Not according to her, at least not all the time.
She claimed this morning that she worked until 6am, but I checked the tracking link in the text at about 4.15am, before finally able to go to sleep. (Link active any time until she clocks off.) I heard her car finally come in at 6am. I was awake a little before then, and lay in bed pondering if I should go out to her car or wait until she came into our room to take a nap. I ended up getting up to go to the loo, and saw her car outside, but then saw her keys on the table. I couldn't remember if she took those specific keys (she has 2 sets) , and decided to just get myself some breakfast, and act like there was nothing wrong, mostly for housemate's benefit.
As I was doing breakfast, I heard the shower, and she came into the room later that and took a nap.
I'm just not sure if I should be worried, as this MAY be her way of trying to tell me in a nice way to give her MORE space, even though I'm giving her space. I guess it's POSSIBLE that she doesn't agree, and instead of arguing with me about it, she's just resorted to a "actions speak louder than words" approach? Could it also be that she feels emotionally disconnected?
Anyone else run into something like this?
I am waiting to hear back for counselling (yay), and it's free (double yay), but it will be a 6 week wait (bummer).
