APPROACHING SURE?

Also wishing you all the best my friend @Appleblossom and that all goes well doing what you love to do. I so sincerely want this for you and believe in you, that you can do this. It's time for you to have some happiness - you do sound so much better. All credit to you. Much love xx

Hi @Appleblossom ..... 🤗💕

Assuming choir is over tonight, and I hope it went well for you ....

HUG ❣

I was a little anxious and it helped me seeing all your posts. Thank you.

Tonight went well. Nobody uncomfortable. I reconnected with about 5 people in a warm way. A teacher who I stopped going to because of it, now understands why I dissappeared, so it will be nice to see her again.

The lady prez managed to take in my presence, gave me a wave, with a gesture of keep my distance which I did, so no words..

Thinking about the standard of the conductors I have worked with since I left. I feel I have moved on well and have a much richer musical life. She will have to put up with me in a few collaraborative ventures, Silly lady. I am lucky that I can be a free agent, but I also have worked for it.

I Better go to bed.

My son debriefed from his late rehearsal too .. creative types .. involves some politicking but working with personalities in productive ways makes a big difference in final outcomes.

Sounds good @Appleblossom .... pleased for you .... 😊💕

WELL DONE!!! @Appleblossom, glad it worked out. I so understand how hard it is to be around people who have treated you bad, but sounds like some of the others help make up for it. And pleased to see your focus is on them. Proud of you!

Yes and another lady who I had accompanied 10 years ago was there .. and waved to me ..

She had been HORRIBLE to me for a long time excluding me and/or bulldozing me in conversation repeatedly and recruiting others into it..

I could not work out why, I may have looked a but startled exhausted, or had a black cloud travelling with me. But she was a class act B. She had been critical of my son at a critical time .. when I was trying to get him to do something .. anything ....

These days I present a lot better, my clothes are better, my face less worn with pain, and my manner more cheery.

I asked her friend what expertise she had .. none .. last week she snapped at some women talking at wrong time .. but it was fair .. I now take it that she has ACCEPTED me in the choir world.

I feel it is a repeat of the scenario .. when I was a teen and a girl used to dunk and bomb me at the pool and kick my head in .. charming .. and then invited me to join her gang ... I said thanks but no thankx.

SO how will APPLE manage these people in ADULT fashion ..

FIRMLY APPLE .. BRISKLY ... dont be such a dag and too desperate for their approval ...

I do think I was just a target, obviously vulnerable .. and was told in my counselling course .. bullies go for it .. like moth to a flame.

I still think I should discuss the situation with the prez with the Royal Commission .. but will chew on it. her co prez .. a male .. is a pdoc and there is stuff re his organisation and her organisation that I want to bring up. In harmony with the male coprez .. as he reached out and did not play clashy bossy games like the sheprez .. tho I will grant her chances ... it is bigger than .. me .. it involves my son .. my uncle .. etc etc ...and situations that should be exposed to the light. Her attempt to silence me and then oust me was late in the game .. but .. no excuse .. for a person in her level of authority ..

In the meantme .. the new hot gorgeous brilliant young conductor come up to me to chat .. and we touched on physics, schwa and personality politics in 2 mins .. like a house on fire .. I think they realise that I have moved on to better pastures ... cat licking the cream ....hmmmm

Hi @Appleblossom

Way back in the past I was involved in a church - into everything and aware I was being manipulated

It's amazing how quickly manipulative people think we are manipulating them when we are doing nothing of the sort - sound familiar?

Anyway - I stayed at that church to get the content regardless of the form - but when what was happening there got too much for my silence - I spoke out - and this caused a furore - and left that church writing a letter formally thanking everyone but saying I was moving along

Where I would go now if I felt like it is fine - but I have had my moment there too - must it depends a lot on who is in charge - and strong people are not always popular

I get what you are saying - so

Attend for the content - your music - and watch the form and if required - speak out - but be aware this might bite back. But I know - I will speak out and do speak out and will suffer again in the future I am sure

It is not a comfortable thing to see so clearly - a prophet is not welcome in his own town and it seems to me you - like me - belong in the prophet class

Oh dear - the prophets of this world are required

We give people the Violent Trumbles - but we must pick out battles too Apple

You are in my thoughts - stay for the music and keep your battles for the big ones

Dec - hugs