Susan1New Contributor
How do you make good boundaries with a child with mental health issues while still showing them love?
How do you do this?? If I show compassion I'm taken advantage of. If I call a behaviour as being out of line there's an angry outburst and denial and violent accusations and distortions of facts. I want to have a relationship with my child (15) but to do this it's like a constant and exhausting roller coaster. She wants me to only be available to her and her sister (diagnosis of borderline personality disorder) and not only won't accept my partner but has actively and unrelentingly tried to sabotage our relationship. She's lied to family, friends and an incompetent psychologist who appeared not to believe a word I said but instead took my daughters word as gospel. How do I build a relationship that is healthy and withstand my daughters agendas and manipulation. I'm anxious every time I talk to them...exhausted and burnt out from raising them...but want them in my life in a healthy way. Is this possible? I feel I'm tolerating lies if I pretend there's nothing hurtful or wrong in both girls behaviour...but there's an absolute refusal to own any wrongdoing...and there's been some intense wrongdoing. Any ideas please!!!
