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SmilingGeckoSenior Contributor
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@GezzaP hello! Went for a walk and had a quiet afternoon. Got out an old manual that came with some functional health jewellery made by a genius by the name of dr fred bell from pyradyne. Ive had it for years i feel better wearing it its technology from tomorrow. Just did some hypothalomous taoist practice, made a pot of herbal tea and will have an early night.
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
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Hi @Meowmy
@it’s going to the afternoon here —-
snooze
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MeowmySenior Contributor
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@TAB hey tabby, well done re walk and chores. Turned out a successful day for you. No exercises today. Just did steam room. Very stressed. Just need to get by ha.Will be stressful next few days or week as mother and brother mounting pressure on me to pay for their very expensive supplements 50 dollars per week. See how will go. At outside friend's house for dinner. Hope it will be nice and a distraction ha. Take care.
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TABSenior Contributor
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@GezzaP did half a daily unit when added dribs and drabs on 2nd trip to shop w car @Meowmy
- got parcel (not opened) its smaller stockpot finally realised also got new phone wtih fitwatch deal fm hardly normal for less then phone selling for.ok Galaxy A36 Samsung and Galaxy Fit3 watch
- got script
- got ice
- did walk
- split wood.
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TABSenior Contributor
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dont do it @Meowmy they prob have more money than you do. maybe call police or something
To stop relatives from demanding money, you must establish strict boundaries, master the art of saying "no" without over-explaining, and protect your personal assets. If the demands escalate to threats or control over your finances, treat it as financial abuse and seek support. [1, 2]
Set Firm Boundaries
- Use the broken record technique: Have a standard, repeatable phrase and stick to it no matter how much they push. For example, simply say: "I’m sorry, but I am not able to give out money."
- Do not over-justify: Giving excuses opens the door for them to offer solutions or argue with your logic. Avoid saying you can't afford it "right now," as this implies it might be okay in the future.
- Shift the focus: Offer non-financial support instead. Tell them you would be happy to help them draft a budget, look for local resources, or simply spend time together. [1, 2, 3, 4]
Protect Your Finances
- Adopt the "gift, not loan" rule: If you occasionally decide to help a relative out, treat it as a gift, not a loan. Do not part with money you expect to see again.
- Limit information: Practice "stealth wealth." Do not discuss your income, raises, bonuses, or savings with family members.
- Secure your bank accounts: If relatives have access to your accounts or you live in a shared household, open a new, completely separate account at a different bank, change your PINs, and secure your financial documents. [1, 2, 3, 4]
Handle Demands Assertively
- Avoid giving in to guilt: Family members may use guilt, manipulation, or anger when their demands are refused. Recognize that their financial irresponsibility is not your burden to fix.
- Distance and block: If the requests become harassment, reduce your contact. It is completely acceptable to step back from conversations or temporarily block numbers until boundaries are respected. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
When to Seek Help
Financial abuse is a serious issue that happens when someone pressures you to hand over your income or controls your money. [1]
- Australian Resources: If family pressure becomes threatening or coercive, contact 1800RESPECT, which provides free, confidential support and counseling for domestic and financial abuse. For guidance on handling family pressure safely, check Moneysmart.gov.au.
- Community Perspectives: To read how others navigate boundary-setting with financially entitled family members, browse experiences shared on communities like Reddit. [1, 2, 3]
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TABSenior Contributor
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do you pay board @Meowmy ? maybe do that instead. give to mother if she thinks son needs money then she can give it to him, ha.
does motherpay for anything ? like food ? or rates ? does brother live there? if not he can go jump in the lake
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GezzaPSenior Contributor
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Very productive of you @TAB . I ate something. I will watch a series on the ABC then go to bed early.
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GezzaPSenior Contributor
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@SmilingGecko Hello. I didn’t walk today except around the garden a few times. Slept almost all of the morning. Will go to bed reasonably early I think. Might watch a bit of footy. We’ll see how I feel. Puss not happy I shut her in.
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TABSenior Contributor
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fair enough @GezzaP only just sitting down now
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GlistenSenior Contributor
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Poor @Meowmy I don’t like it when life is hard on you… I don’t like it when life is hard on any of my Forum friends.
