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Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

TideisTurningSenior Contributor13 Nov 2023, 1:57 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

On Tuesday 19th December, join us for a discussion together with one of SANE’s counsellors, about the end of year period, what this can look like for us, and how we can explore different ways to do it our way.

The event start times across Australia are below:

WA: 2:30pm
NT: 4:00pm

SA: 5:00pm

QLD: 4:30pm

NSW, ACT, VIC & TAS: 5:30pm

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Hope to see you there in the chat on the night!

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GlistenSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:15 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@TideisTurning It is the first Christmas back in Perth since I was discarded by the ex-narc.

I’m feeling waves of guilt, shame and failure. Because the relationship failed because I didn’t know any better.

My children’s stepfather, my grandchildren’s grandfather is a narcissist. After 13 years of being around my family he has no problem discarding them.

It was always going to end on matter what did.

I just feel like I failed my family.

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amber22Senior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:15 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

Maybe coming up with something that you can enjoy yourself? @batty30

This could include watching a holiday movie, cooking a meal, going and looking at lights or anything else related to the holiday season that you might celebrate or want to participate in. Maybe making your own traditions that you can uphold! 🙂

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BigSkyCatContributor19 Dec 2023, 6:16 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@batty30 something I have found to be true is we can only control what is in our sphere of control so make your own individual plan and if you feel brave make it known and then others may or may not decide to join in with you

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HealandloveSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:16 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

Thank you! Will definitely watch it.

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SnowieSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:18 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

This is one of the hardest things I face. Having to plaster that fake smile on my face and pretend that everything is ok, when inside it feels like I am screaming out.

I use short breaks, my anxiety ring, prn, distraction, and big deep breaths!

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batty30Casual Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:19 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

I feel a bit odd that I'm sort of having the opposite problem this year. My family just quite literally in the mood this year, which I totally support. But on the other hand, I feel a bit surrounded my misery and gloom.

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HealandloveSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:21 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@Glisten I know this shame and guilt well. Through therapy I have realized my sister's rejection of me has it's origins before my husband's breakdown but I can't help but feel guilty that I couldn't keep the extended family together. I'm hoping EMDR will help with this.

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BigSkyCatContributor19 Dec 2023, 6:22 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

I really relate to what you said 'because i didnt know any better' - I am sure a lot us on here relate to that too. we did what we could with what we knew at the time @Glisten

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SnowieSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:23 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@Healandlove I started emdr about 3 months ago with my psych. It is hard, but helping.

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batty30Casual Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:23 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

100%, you can only do what you can do.

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