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Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

NikNikSenior Contributor30 Nov 2016, 3:46 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

Besides the usual stress of what presents to buy Uncle Pete and third cousin Kelly, those of us who have a loved one with a mental illness have the added worry of the wellbeing of our loved throughout the Christmas period.

What do I do if they have an episode during Christmas?

What do I tell family if he doesn't want to go to the Christmas gathering anymore?

How can I ensure she maintains her routine among all of the disruption that Christmas brings?

Tonight we will be looking at some options to try to reduce your worries and allow you to relax (maybe!) and to get the most out of your own Christmas festivities.

So please feel free to share some of your own tips or share your concerns about the Christmas period and lets help each other out!

A big welcome to @Former-Member @Former-Member @Marty69@Kennedee @PeppiPatty @DollFace @Ray1 @Trailrider43 @probelogic @Shaz51 @FluxAeon01 @Hans

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MEBCasual Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:45 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

We will go for a bike ride and picnic. Unfortunately my husband who is not his father won't have him home. Not easy !

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NikNikSenior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:46 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

It seems your stuck betwee a rock and a hard place @Former-Member

Does your son understand what your daughter is going through? Or is that a tough relationship?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:51 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Hello @NikNik

Hubby was just saying sometimes it is good to take a break somewhere over the christmas break

not sure if he wants to go somewhere , like down to his son`s place or does he want to stay a home ???

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Unknown userMember20 Dec 2016, 8:51 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Hi @NikNik

That's a really good way to describe it - between a rock and a hard place. I just have to bounce in between and go with the flow I think.

Yes, it is a tough relationship between my daughter and step son. They were close once before my daughter's demise but she hurt a lot of people and he doesn't trust her and/or doesn't feel comfortable with her. Very sad how she has lost so many. She treats us the same - she has so much anger. Can only hope she feels a bit calmer on the day but the signs at the moment say otherwise. I wonder sometimes just how much a human being can endure. I think I will find out. Thanks for the thread 😊

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NikNikSenior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:52 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

@MEB @Former-Member @Former-Member @Shaz51 @coffeegirl @Former-Member and anyone else looking on that I've missed, we have about 10 mins left and I want to finish up with one challenge:

A UK study showed that 30% of carers did not have any form of break over a previous christmas period. SO my challenge to you is -

List 3 things that you commit to doing for yourself over the Christmas period:

& I will be following up in the new year to make sure you kept your commitments

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Shaz51Senior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:55 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Oh wow @NikNik, that is hard xx

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Unknown userMember20 Dec 2016, 8:55 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Three things I commit to:-

1. Keep hopeful

2. Look after my health

3. Finish my cross stitch projects

Merry Christmas @NikNik@Shaz51@MEB@Former-Member@Former-Member and everyone 🎄💕

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NikNikSenior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:56 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

I like to make things challenging @Shaz51 😉
@Former-Member what does #2 mean for you?

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coffeegirlSenior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 8:58 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

1) Go to the beach at least once

2) Connect with my loved ones

3) Not feel guilty eating chocolate

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NikNikSenior Contributor20 Dec 2016, 9:00 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

A big thanks to @Former-Member @Shaz51 @MEB @Former-Member @Former-Member @Hans @coffeegirl for being part of tonight's session.

I am about to post a Carers Plan B check list over in this thread - so you might be interested in filling it out for yourself and continuing this dicussion over there 🙂

Take care everyone!

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