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Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

Besides the usual stress of what presents to buy Uncle Pete and third cousin Kelly, those of us who have a loved one with a mental illness have the added worry of the wellbeing of our loved throughout the Christmas period.

What do I do if they have an episode during Christmas?

What do I tell family if he doesn't want to go to the Christmas gathering anymore?

How can I ensure she maintains her routine among all of the disruption that Christmas brings?

Tonight we will be looking at some options to try to reduce your worries and allow you to relax (maybe!) and to get the most out of your own Christmas festivities.

So please feel free to share some of your own tips or share your concerns about the Christmas period and lets help each other out!

A big welcome to @Former-Member @Former-Member @Marty69@Kennedee @PeppiPatty @DollFace @Ray1 @Trailrider43 @probelogic @Shaz51 @FluxAeon01 @Hans

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

hello @Shaz51

sorry am i supposed to ask you? i am new at this.

what gets me stressed:

all the hype and lead up to christmas,

extra pressure of what to buy for whom

i have been sheltering myself inside the house for some time now and we have to go to three different houses on christmas day - very draining

1 house - husband's relatives - very judgemental and dont trust them unfortunately so not comfortable for me at all

other house - my sister and mum - my sister is a perfectionist and on time clean up fanatic. so i always feel as though no sooner have we got there than we have eaten formal christmas dinner, pudding and mince pies, opened presents, washed up and it is time to go to the next place.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Hi @Former-Member - Welcome!

So tonight the topic is around what the main concerns are for yourself or your loved one (if you're a carer) over Christmas.

One of the big things that has come up so far is lack of routine - so no set time to get up, go to bed, eat etc and @coffeegirl @Shaz51 @DollFace shared some of the things they might try and use to either replace things in their routine, or to schedule things in.

@DollFace shared that she's going camping and taking her dogs, which is a great way to get time out when you're forced to be surrounded by people!

How about you @Former-Member? What are some of things that have you worried at the moment?

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // 20 Dec. 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

hello @DollFace

yes we live in the hills/country - peaceful - no smog

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

hello @NikNik

i havent a clue what i am doing laugh i sent my essay off to shaz

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

hello again @NikNik

my adult son who doesnt live with me in denial of recent diagnosis and not telling us where he is. he has stopped all contact with me because i wouldnt send money. contact with his dad week ago for more money.

so my strategy is try to be happy for everyone else around me

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

@Former-Member - Wow - more than one place to go on Christmas stresses me out!
Though do you find it helpful that you HAVE to leave your husband's relatives to go to the next place? You have escape plan 🙂

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

@NikNik

original reply:

hello @Shaz51

sorry am i supposed to ask you? i am new at this.

what gets me stressed:

all the hype and lead up to christmas,

extra pressure of what to buy for whom

i have been sheltering myself inside the house for some time now and we have to go to three different houses on christmas day - very draining

1 house - husband's relatives - very judgemental and dont trust them unfortunately so not comfortable for me at all

other house - my sister and mum - my sister is a perfectionist and on time clean up fanatic. so i always feel as though no sooner have we got there than we have eaten formal christmas dinner, pudding and mince pies, opened presents, washed up and it is time to go to the next place.

I think i have managed to monopolise the forum!!!

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Hello @Former-Member, it is great to see you my friend xx

Hi @NikNik, I think if you have sometime on durin the christmas holidaays will make a difference

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

yes good thinking I will try to remember that in between my breathing

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

Re: Topic Tuesday // What gets you stressed over Christmas? // LIVE NOW

What if things go downhill over the Christmas period? @Former-Member @Shaz51 @coffeegirl @DollFace are the usual supports (Drs, psychs, community support etc) that you use available over this time?

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