Have nothing left

Hi @Jewelbox

Welcome to the forums, I'm so glad you found us here.
Gosh it sounds like you have a lot on your plate. It's no wonder you're almost burnt out. I'm wondering if you're getting any time to take time out or practice some self-care?

Some of the Carers organisations have great resources but I'm thinking you're probably looked at those already?

Sending my warmest wishes

Hanami

@Shaz51 may have some wise words here x

Hello @Jewelbox , @hanami

sending you lots of understanding hugs , over the many years i have cried in the bathroom

it is tough as us as carers have our own ups and downs daily and to be relied on by soo many people takes it toll from time to time

and to have support for all members is hard to find that daily balance

my husband has put himself in hospital twice in the last 8 years

we are here for you

Here a some great links for you to look at ( the first two are read only now but are good to read

Topic Tuesday // Self Care for Carers // Tues 20th July, 7:00-8:30PM AEST

Topic Tuesday// Caring For The Carer// Tues 29th November 2022 7-8:30PM AEDT

Coping Toolbox ( what is in yours to help you cope ) is a great thread for sharing and reading and talking

Thank you so much @Shaz51 I often forget about those great links you shared to the Topic Tuesdays!

Hope you find them helpful @Jewelbox

Hey @Jewelbox ,

It certainly sounds very difficult. Do you have professional supports in place for yourself? I'm wondering whether speaking to someone can help you through this difficult period?

It's so important that you have time to look after yourself. As carers, I've learnt that you can't pour out of an empty cup. There's only so much one can give before they feel burnt out.

Please know we are here if you need a chat.

I am in a similar situation to you and completely understand the feeling of burn out and wanting to separate from your husband.

A selfcare approach that works for me is 10-to-20-minute meditations.

The family knows not to disturb me during this time, and it really helps me to cope.

Some days I need to do this more than once.

what a wonderful tip @HelpfulHen 😊, I need to remember to do it daily

my outlet is word games on the phone

Morning @Jewelbox , @tyme , @hanami

I'm absolutely feeling you Jewel, unfortunately 😞

I'm supporting my partner (PTSD, ASD, anxiety, you name it!) and I adore them as a person but..... I am so, so sick of having to parent them to simply exist.

Could you tap out for a weekend? Just go stay with a friend or in a tent or a hotel if you can afford it. I know my house goes to sh** and my partner would basically spend the weekend staring a screens with their 2 boys (both autistic too, I get it) but I think you NEED to put yourself first.

One of my dearest friends and I really struggle to get time out (she also has two neurodiverse boys and a husband with untreated/undiagnosed mental health issues who is a belidgerant douche) but we did recently.... and it really helped me to cope. Just a 3 hour walk in a park nearby, with coffee and snacks.... life changing.

I'm not saying it solves anything but it gave me a break and some space to breathe.

Hugs lady, I wish I had answers