Really Struggling

I hear you @ClockFace

I was thinking about you earlier this evening - what can I say to help you

Your toxic family is a large part of your life and your lack of any possible positive outcome

So I thought - perhaps talk to your parents separately and tell them you can give them some help and they need to accept it will be less - also you can't help you sister

Then tell you sister she has to help herself - and also let her know you need to care for yourself regardless of what she thinks

This won't be easy - you need to work on yourself first - we all need to care for ourselves before we can care for others

I have been thinking about you and reading some of your posts - I had some technical issues with my computer and couldn't post - I could read the forum though

I am sure many people here care about you - it's tough for you - you may feel alone - that's okay - we understand

Best thoughts

Owlunar

Hello Really Struggling, I'm new here , I'm Tiger.

I'm not exactly sure how it works but at any time if U need a person to talk or to listen I am here for you . I'm no expert and will only give advice on what I know or have experienced. I've been in some pretty dark lows and massive highs yet I always come out the other side in one piece .,.. traumatized., Damaged , changed ,etc etc as I'm sure get .... But I'm still here. I. Not travelling the best at moment and need someone to bounce things off so plz get in contact with me I am hopeful that I may be able to help U in some positive and moving forward way. Chin Up Tiger🙏

@ClockFace I'm so sorry to read all this, and that life sucks so much for you at the moment 😢

Sending good wishes for you... 🤞

Welcome, @Tiger777 . It's good you've joined.

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@Owlunar2

Yeah, the way Im dealing with the family has changed a fair bit. My sister is in hospital for the past 3 weeks, I stopped in and saw her briefly once. I had a Bone Scan, there was part of a test done then 3 hours wait before the second part. If it wasnt for that I wouldnt have dropped in at all. Not that I have an issue with her, but I have so much going on that Im focused on my own health first. Given her situation being apart of that just puts me too much at risk

I talk to Mum and Dad a fair bit, but I dont take any shit and they know it. If they talk crap, lie or anything else, I call them out. Im polite but so much of the problems around here are their own doing and Ive made that pretty clear.

My existance is really hard, there are people with it worse, but that doesnt help me deal with my stuff. I take it hour by hour, day by day is to big of a bite. I have boundries, some Ive allowed to come down a bit over the past little while, trying to be more accomodating to my family. But theyve gone back up, it doesnt matter what I do to be more accomodating, to help, etc. they always want more, even when they can see how much its hurting, how its having a really negative impact on my health and mental health. So, its time I put the boundries back up, add some even, if nothing else until I am better, managing my health issues and capable of dealing with my existance again.

Yes @ClockFace

I am encouraging you to be firm with those boundaries - you do need to care for yourself and I support you in this.

Your family will take as much as they can get obviously - it amazing that they can't see how unwell you are.

Sending my best thoughts

Owlunar