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I don't know if I can do it anymore

I don't know if I can do it anymore

i dont know if i cant keep doing this anymore i am struggling so much i cant get any uni work done and even if i do it is shit and i am still going to fail despite my best efforts because my best is never enough and on top of that i cant even take care of myself or my basic everyday needs i cant even get myself to drink enough water each day let alone manage my hygiene stuff i keep wanting to cry all the time and i keep having breakdowns over the smallest things literally dropping something on the floor is enough to set me off. then it is like should i quit uni but then i have wasted years of my life and incurred a huge debt all for nothing. i am exhausted 24/7 i keep doing stupid things because i feel so bad all the time there is nothing anyone can do to help me with all of this and i cant fix it myself even though i am trying really hard too and i just i cant take it anymore sometimes i feel like my only option is just to give up and die but then what if i fail and end up in the hospital again ugh anyway idk what to do anymore i am completely lost.

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@justanotherguy thanks 😁

Also, @Appleblossom, @Former-Member, and @justanotherguy, thank you for sharing your experiences, you've actually helped me take some pressure off myself when it comes to studying 💚

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@Ilovepenguins @Eden1919 @Appleblossom

There were always peer support programs at Uni 10 years ago, Universities recognise some students need more help than others, I would definitely reach out to the Uni/college for some support if I was struggling. I did use one of those services myself a few times (but later felt I didn't really need it).

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Thanks @justanotherguy I also left home young and went back to uni at 23. I dont regret it. I love the insights I was fortunate to get, but it was not key to my income or the last word.

Had a weird experience also last year, someone suggested I teach the Diploma of Community Services, and I did it for a month and thought there was no way I thought it was ethical to teach that course knowing and experiencing what I know. So in many ways I am lucky to be able to be choosy. I am sure its not all bad, but I found it did not teach open minded thinking about mental health. It was too formulaic.

Walking some of the way with you @Eden1919

One good thing about life is that we are all different, and it can be great having different companions. I still look back at positive experiences in my travels, study and work histories and they give me hope in humanity.

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@Former-Member @Ilovepenguins @justanotherguy @Appleblossom thanks everyone i cant put the degree on hold because i have already done that before and i dont have time to do it again because i have to finish my degree with in a certain amount of time. it is just hard because i am not doing this for a specific job or anything but uni is like my purpose in life right now and it is really important to me and honestly giving it up would probably make me even more suicidal but at the same time i just dont know if i am capable of completing the degree but then the thought of not doing it is like why am i even here then idk it is hard to explain i just dont know what to do anymore because nothing i do is good enough even if i am giving as much as i have got it is never enough so idk what to do i feel hopeless and lost.

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Really hope the hopeless and lost feeling eases. @Eden1919 ...can you reach out to Student Support services for special consideration?

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@Eden1919 I was very much like that. I needed to have challenges and structure and study helped even tho it was hard.

Chip away at it. Dont be afraid to pass with special considerations. You deserve it. Try and be kinder to yourself about expectations. But honestly so many of us ... just go gung ho on the deadlines and it is sink or swim, but do it anyway. Dog paddle is usually enough, unless you are doing Uber stroke techniques in a Sports Science degree.

Love Apple

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@Eden1919 , so sorry to hear, I am glad I got through my degree though it was hard. Can you get counselling at Uni? Is there any other academic support services available?

Can I ask is the subject itself the motivating factor for you?

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@Appleblossom thanks, i dont think i can get special consideration.

@justanotherguy i have a psychologist already but yeah idk i am still just struggling a lot. the content is a big motivating factor but idk my whole degree got messed up by covid and now i am left trying to pick up the pieces.

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@Eden1919 ,

I know you don't want to give up the time already spent, but I feel like I have wasted 20 years dealing with the stupidest stuff I could ever imagine. All the while though my health was number 1. Whatever you choose I urge you to put your health first, it's something that is very hard to get back if it's lost, sadly I've seen many people sacrifice their health and never get it back.

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@justanotherguy unfortunately i dont have the means or the time or the ability to put my health first at the moment and putting it first in the past hasnt done me any good anyway all it has done is waste my time because my health never improves it just gets gradually worse and worse.

i am really struggling tonight i am not coping at all and i have tried everything i cant to manage and nothing is working and i am not even able to do small things and i just cant take this much longer.

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