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buzzer32Contributor
So it’s often suggested EMDR is great for those with trauma. Have tried it over a prolong period and found it made things worse or next to useless.
It didn’t really change by distress from trauma
It didn’t really change by beliefs but psychologist sugggest it should and example give was despite on going family violence i should think to myself i am safe. Dunno how thinking you are safe if still experincing ongoing family violence is a good idea?
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IlovepenguinsSenior Contributor
@buzzer32 EMDR didn't work for me either. What works for some, doesn't for others and
I agree with you, I feel like tricking yourself into feeling safe when your environment isn't actually safe can be counterproductive.
I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience with 1800RESPECT, that's quite disheartening to hear about the most publicised domestic violence helpline letting you down like that. I hope you're finding some support and validation within the forums.
Have you ever tried contacting Mensline before? They might be a little bit more appropriate as they cater for men. https://mensline.org.au/family-violence/experiencing-a-violent-or-abusive-relationship/
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buzzer32Contributor
Mensline were useless too. Told me they only help men who use violence and have no idea where male victims can go
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tymeModerator
Hey @buzzer32 , I'm sorry to hear mensline weren't great either. In terms of support, what were you hoping to get/achieve out of getting support? Is it just someone to listen to you, or is it to actually get up and do something for you?
Sorry, I'm not 100% sure what you are looking for.
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buzzer32Contributor
Support with referrals for safety planning, and needs arising from FV.
Many of therapist i seen over years(not just one for EMdR) been useless too, with many of view just need therapy thats all. For example one therapist refused writing a support letter for Intervention order application i had, instead suggesting be bettter do more therapy and not worry !
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