Hello - newbie here

Hi @autisticadult

So sorry to hear you're struggling at the moment. I also want to say welcome to the forums - I'm one of the peer workers here. I started going through perimenopause about 10 years ago (at 44) and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I already took medication for my anxiety and when I saw my GP she suggestion HRT. It is the best thing I did. My symptoms didn't disappear but they really eased a lot. Do you have a GP you can talk to about the symptoms of perimenopause? So many women are in the same boat. I used to admin an amazing group on FB for perimenopausal women which has 29000 members!

Warmest wishes

Hanami

Hello @autisticadult

You've done very well for yourself so don't be so harsh. Menopause can bring up lots of things. When I was peri menopausal had a few hot flushes. I did follow the advice of women's health pioneer Christiane Northrup who has appeared on TV shows like Oprah. She put out some audio material on menopause which I highly benefitted from. There may be books of hers and audios available from your local library!

I just ate a wholefoods diet most of my life and cut out the junk as she recommended and my menopause was somewhat easier than most peoples. She believes menopause starts in your 30's so having a healthy diet from that point on can guarantee that you will have an easier experience. If you couldn't do that there are other tips she can recommend as she has treated menopausal women all her life and has seen it all.

There are natural hormonal creams you can use like wild yam. Some folks do HRT, it wasn't my approach but I respect their choice in that as they say its changed their life when there weren't other options. I have also heard about bioidentical hormones but I would suggest to do your due diligence when researching your health options there.

With trauma there are many things you can do now yourself. Lately I have seen things on Epsilon brainwave entrainment which is said to access deep trauma in the brain. You can learn about this online. Google "Epsilon brainwave entrainment and trauma"

I also use Sapien Medicine audios (you tube) on clearing negativity which works every time I do it. If I enter a dark space I play the audio with headphones on and it just releases the toxicity, totally guaranteed. I used to get his audios for free off You Tube but now subscribe to his Patreon channel for a meagre amount to get access to other exclusive audio content. He did also have a free audio on trauma I think also on you tube which may be free.

I could not get access to counselling either and even then I wondered whether it would work. I think having a congenial therapeutical environment can be good for building on personal strengths but to this day wonder about the efficacy of treating trauma as many therapists I've read in literature admit they don't know adequately how to treat it. Its one of those problems that they have difficulty with.

Anyway I'm glad you reached out. There are so many options. I'm glad to be able to be here for you and provide personal insights. I hope you pick up for the rest of the afternoon. Feel free to navigate the site and use this service to whatever your need.

Take care! ❤️

No worries @autisticadult . Just want to say that many of the members here take medication so maybe be mindful of that when you use terms such as 'pill popper'. I take medication for anxiety and have never thought of myself as a pill popper. It's not an easy fix, you still have to 'do the work'. The medication just takes the edge of the physical symptoms.

I know you meant no offense, but just a gentle message to be mindful.

Thanks @autisticadult

Hey @autisticadult ,

I see you are looking at alternatives to medication. Do you currently engaged in any sort of therapy?

We are here if you need a chat.