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Dealing with heartbreak

Dealing with heartbreak

It has been a year since I lost a person in my life who meant a lot to me.

Over the course of 2 years I developed strong feelings for someone, whom I felt I had a real emotional connection with. I was struggling with life, and they really cared for me and helped brighten my mood. I developed feelings for them, and wanted to prove I was worthy, and not a waste of time. I thought my feelings didn’t exist anymore, but their caring manner and a bright smile gave me a warm feeling, and I started to feel better and more confident in myself. Then they suddenly left me, and I question my feelings and if they were real. I have missed her every day for a year, and the thoughts that she didn’t feel for me really hurts. I have been in a dark place, and now realise I need to find myself. The fact that I now feel such pain is really hard to deal with though and I can’t get over it.

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Re: It is happening

Maybe the course wasn't for you for now? @Rockdog

There are so many other opportunities. Keep looking. Also, look at other things you may be interested in too. Like social work etc.

Don't they have places for people who are not working? Or you pay $200 or something and the rest is subsidised?

You gotta keep looking. Can't sit on your laurels and wait for things to come to you. Recovery and readiness is an active process.

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Hey @tyme ,

that is what I was going to ask you actually. There are options I need to explore and can get there another way. There are community service courses that might lead to the same outcome eventually. Are you free later this evening at all?

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Hi @Rockdog,

I just wanted to share my experience as I have recently gone through a similar situation. My boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago and I'm still feeling the pain quite a lot. It's like no matter what I do, I can't stop thinking about him. We used to talk everyday and he was the person I always went to for support when I was down, and I felt like he was the only one who truly understood me/saw me for who I was. Anyway, although I haven't really been able to move on yet, I hope you know that you're not alone in this.

- HopeDream

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Re: Dealing with heartbreak

HI @HopeDream ,

Welcome to the forums! I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. It sounds so tough.

Please know we are here to support you.

Are there specific things you've been doing to help you manage?

@Rockdog , yes, I'm free now. I think it's a really good idea to open up the options.

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Thanks @tyme, that means a lot. I've been trying to write my thoughts down and listen to music when I feel down. I also try to go out and do things to distract myself. It's hard right now but I'm hoping it'll get better with time.

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Hi @HopeDream,

thank you for sharing your pain. When you get really connected to someone and they are there and a big part of your life it is really hard when they leave. Your situation is probably harder because you were in a relationship. Mine was someone I came to rely on for my emotional support. But I really miss her, wonder what she is doing, wonder if she cares So I am the same and it has been 2 years and I think of the special connection every day. We need to keep working on ourselves and who knows what the future brings. Support in here is awesome. @tyme is the best

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Hi @tyme ,

Hope you are well. I didn’t look at a back up plan, I just thought I would get in. Now I am a bit lost. Like today I have just finished gym and need to do shopping. I had all day but had no energy. I miss her and am feeling pretty sad about things.

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@Rockdog ,

Hearing you. Don't let this get to you. Just keep your eyes open for other opportunities. @Rockdog

Social work, community work, disability worker, etc.

Apply for everything and take the one that comes to you.

I see you in the 'helping' industry. You have such a large, compassionate heart.

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Aww thanks @tyme ,

social work should be similar shouldn’t it? Then I might get some credit anyway. Yeah I can’t drop the ball or things won’t work out. I do think there is a plan in place. I had a really weird dream last night and she popped into it. It felt realistic. I don’t know if dreams are real?

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Dreams are real if you allow them to be 🙂 @Rockdog

Yes, social work will be great. You CAN do it. Give yourself the chance and fight for all that it's worth!

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