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Dealing with heartbreak

RockdogSenior Contributor

Dealing with heartbreak

It has been a year since I lost a person in my life who meant a lot to me.

Over the course of 2 years I developed strong feelings for someone, whom I felt I had a real emotional connection with. I was struggling with life, and they really cared for me and helped brighten my mood. I developed feelings for them, and wanted to prove I was worthy, and not a waste of time. I thought my feelings didn’t exist anymore, but their caring manner and a bright smile gave me a warm feeling, and I started to feel better and more confident in myself. Then they suddenly left me, and I question my feelings and if they were real. I have missed her every day for a year, and the thoughts that she didn’t feel for me really hurts. I have been in a dark place, and now realise I need to find myself. The fact that I now feel such pain is really hard to deal with though and I can’t get over it.

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RockdogSenior Contributor

Re: Dealing with heartbreak

Hi @RiverSeal

Thank you for your help 😊

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RockdogSenior Contributor

Re: Dealing with heartbreak

Hi @tyme

that was meant to be I can’t believe i am in so deep, as in fallen so hard. I guess that is the good and bad thing about our feelings. They just happen sometimes 🥰

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tymeModerator

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Hey @HeyJoeI ,

Thanks for popping by and sharing. It sounds like a common situation in that people pour their heart out only for the other person to walk away?

Would you share something you learnt from your experiences?

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tymeModerator

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Hey @Rockdog ,

Good to see you have insight into what is happening. I hear that you can be feeling quite sad at times, but as you said, that's the nature of our feelings.

Hold onto the image of that feather.

These are things to hold on to. Hope is something we don't understand. But if we believe and hope, it will keep us going.

You can do it!

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HeyJoeICasual Contributor

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I am looking for someone who I consider looks beautiful. I would say I am a 3 & my current interest is a 7.5 (I don’t believe in valuing people this way but everyone does, regardless of what they say. My first tip*) People come into your life sometimes because you have an ability that can aid them. In exchange they will give you charm which brings you happiness. Exaggerated goodness & spirituality can accompany this (an unspoken exchange *) Then when they need less support they withdraw. You find yourself examining what happened. They spend their time living happily with friends & family. If you are lucky you may have friends & family also. I did not. I could see the signs but chose to ignore them because I wanted the friendship to last forever.

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tymeModerator

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Very interesting insight @HeyJoeI . Food for thought.

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HeyJoeICasual Contributor

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My pleasure. Wish the world was an even playing field for all concerned. However there are many variables

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HeyJoeICasual Contributor

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Yes it’s one thing to speculate on someone else’s emotional issues. It’s completely another thing living them

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RockdogSenior Contributor

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Hi @tyme

Im not sure if I really have insight. All I know is it is hard when sometimes I feel really positive about things, and then I feel sad that it might not happen and I get a bit anxious that my hope is a waste of time.

Thank you for reminding me of those things. With the changes in her circumstances along with those the things you mentioned, I really do believe that things will work out. I do though sometime doubt myself that I read things correctly, and sometimes ruminate over some mixed messages.

When it comes to connection I do think that you just know don’t you? I think if it wasn’t there then I wouldn’t be feeling like this.

In general I do think I’m really slowly improving, and that like you say, when the time is right the universe will help. I know that I have things to work on and the time isn’t right yet. Thanks for your support, my hope will become reality right? 😊

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tymeModerator

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It will happen @Rockdog . Things happen at a time we least expect. Just be ready for whatever will happen.

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