Staying sane in the festive season.

This is a bad time of year for people coping with mental issues - the shops are already filled with Christmas decorations, and they remind us that Christmas is just around the corner. Some of us have issues with family Christmas gatherings bringing up all sorts of old issues. Some of us are so unwell that we feel we just can't cope with all the things expected of us (socialising and buying presents etc.). Some of us are on our own or isolated and find the festive season a time of loneliness and despair. In one way or another it is a stressful time for us all.

I think it is important to let family and friends know just how much you can cope with, so that you don't find yourself overwhelmed and upset. In my case we have a family gathering on Christmas Day of 18 people.

It brings back memories of Christmas' past when everyone was joyful except for me. I think the trick is to take things slowly and start preparing early. Work out what your Christmas obligations are now - and don't hesitate to say no if you are asked to do someting you can't manage. As for presents, some of us do not have the money to buy presents, and others are in a mental condition which makes it impossible to go out shopping. There are two very good on-line shopping sites I have found - hard to find and yellow octopus.I have done all my Christmas shopping on-line beause I can't cope with the crowds in shops and the whole Christmas frenzy thing.

It is a difficult time of year, with people around us expecting us to be joyful and happy. Now is the time to start talking about the festive season with family and friends, and making plans which will not put too much stress on you. Be honest with the people around you and think about your expectations.

Does anyone have any tips/experiences to share which will help us?

Ellu