I don’t understand how other people do it

Hi there @CherryBlossom28

Thank you for sharing your story, it sounds like things are tough right now. I don't think there is anything wrong with giving up fighting anxiety and depression. For many people fighting it never works. It's when they accept it and try to learn how to live with the symptoms is when they begin to feel better.

I hope some others who have had a similar experience can reach out and share their story. It really helps to share and others have to say about the experience.

Warmest wishes

Hanami

Hello,

I'm glad that you are seeing someone who will help you with your journey.

Never give up.

Hello @CherryBlossom28 and welcome to the forums.

I’m sorry you lost your job that must be tough. I am currently treading on egg shells with my employment.

That is very sad for you to lose your Dad at such a young age. I didn’t have that experience so I can’t really comment but I am here to support you.

Take care and lots of love.

Hi @CherryBlossom28,

It can be really challenging to get an Autism diagnosis in adulthood, but for many people it can help to explain why you have found it so hard to it into fit in. Autism can make lots of things really difficult - including work. This can include the social communication aspects of understanding neurotypical (non-autistic) expectations. Please be easy on yourself as you discover what being Autistic means to you & start to work out some strategies to make your life easier.

Also there is a thing called Autistic burnout - which can occur when someone with Autism is putting so much effort into living their life with Autism that they get to a point of extreme exhaustion. It sounds like you might have got to this point. https://psychcentral.com/autism/autistic-burnout has more details.

It is great that your have a supportive psychologist to help you on the journey of discovery about yourself and what Autism means to you. It may be useful for you at some stage to connect with others with an Autism diagnosis - online or in person so you don't feel so alone.

Welcome, @CherryBlossom28 , it's good to have you here 🙂

I'm sorry to hear about your childhood trauma and loss of your job recently, plus your anxiety and depression.

I'm glad to read that you have a psychologist. Do you have any other supports? Meds / trusted GP / friends / family?

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Hi @hanami, thank you for your reply. I appreciate your support and advice. Sometimes it’s just so hard to get in with things when you’re weighed down by the emotional toll your mental state.

But I would like to give an update: I recently got a diagnosis of ADHD and level 1 autism. It feels somewhat of relief to know that my struggles were not just because of me, but they had a cause. One that I can at least begin to treat (with regards to the ADHD).

I’m hoping that by treating my ADHD, my anxiety and depression might also come down a bit.

Hey @CherryBlossom28 ,

I'm hearing you when you mentioned the relief you felt after getting a diagnosis. It's so true that a diagnosis can be so validating - even just to know that there's a name for what you are going through, and it's not just because of 'you'.

I certainly know I felt that sense of relief.

You may want to join our lovely ADHD-ers here: Wait what did I come into this thread for again? Oh yeah, ADHD!

We look forward to seeing you around!