Topic Tuesday// Me Or My Anger- Who's In Charge?// Tuesday 29th August 2023 5:30-7PM AEST

Our last question for @SunnyFlower: How could we redirect or channel anger productively?

@Former-Member @Lacey- any ideas on this one?

Hey! So glad you made it for the end 🙂 @Shaz51

🙂 hello @Shaz51

How could we redirect or channel anger productively?

To avoid anger building up – keep the lines of communication open. Start with yourself if you feel strange opening up to others about something too intimate and personal. Just say it out loud “I feel so angry right now” and notice if you feel any different after. Perhaps, punch a pillow, or scream into one, turn the music on really loudly (where possible) and scream either the words to the song or your feelings out loud. Notice if you feel any differently.

Progressive muscle relaxation can be a useful tool when it comes to anger that has been building up – use different muscle groups and tense them up for a few seconds and then release and notice the difference.

Address the feelings underneath the anger (anger iceberg) and why they are there. For example, it is very common to feel angry when grieving a loss – anger is on the surface of deep sadness that sometimes we are afraid to let it, because it might be too much.

It is important to ask for help, we are not meant to face challenging things on our own. And IT IS OK TO NOT BE OK! Call support lines, speak to a mental health professional, call a friend, call your family, vent and blow off steam, remember, you do not have to carry it all by yourself!

Does anyone have any last minute questions before we wrap up at 7pm for our lovely guest @SunnyFlower ? 🙂

@Shaz51 @Former-Member @Lacey- @ProggyPanther

Ohhh @SunnyFlower , I did leave mine too long and my Mr shaz has not talked to me in days until today @TideisTurning , @amber22

Anger has never been an ok thing for me. Seeing other people angry or expressing it myself, just doesn’t feel safe or ok.

when my mum found out about my childhood S abuse, she went out back and smashed alot of sentimental things that belongs to my abuser. I had never seen someone… my mum… so angry before. It really scared me.

since then, anger is not ok.

Thanks so much for sharing that with us @Bow

That must have been really tough ❤️

Anger can definitely be scary sometimes.

Awww hugs @Shaz51

@Shaz51 I'm sorry to hear that. What would have helped do you think? Having an honest conversation?

That sounds intense @Bow! It's totally understandable anger has come to develop that scary and negative connotation for you, and something that feels a bit too confronting and unsafe to go near. I'm not sure if some of Sasha's answers earlier in the chat might help give you a few other tools to help you navigate anger when it might come up 😊