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BPD and trouble staying grounded

ray_of_sunshin3Contributor28 July 2023, 1:23 am AEST

BPD and trouble staying grounded

Hey it’s been a while since I last posted! It’s been a rough time went very low mentally but going to therapy regularly and it’s helping. I’ve been listening to podcasts on borderline personality disorder and found some supportive Instagram communities like the BPD bunch.

Anyway my question is I tend to become fixated on some of these things like podcasts becoming all consuming or feeling like I need to reach out to all my friends and I’ll almost become consumed with filling my calendar up. It’s causing me to have trouble staying in the moment. Working on myself and continuing to be present for my family.

What has helped you feel more grounded? For those with BPD have you found you get almost tunnel vision with certain things?

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tymeModerator28 July 2023, 4:14 pm AEST

Re: BPD and trouble staying grounded

Hey @ray_of_sunshin3 ,

Awesome questions there. Let's just say, from my own experience. I've realised that it's not about being fixated or have tunnel vision, but more that if I were to do something it'd have to be done very very well. I think this way, it comforts the emotional child within so that I could feel a sense of achievement (driven by deep passion)?

My calendar and life is tabulated by the minute. I feel this gives me stability in my BPD world. I am comforted to know what I have to do next. So much so, if you give me 'free time', I get lost and end up quite distressed.

I learnt that this is the way I feel comfortable, and that's why I choose to live this way. But I can see how you feel it is getting in the way and at times you find it hard to be present for your family.

For me, I schedule family time in too.

What to do? Borderlines are highly capable, passionate and zealous people who feel strongly and love to feel secure.

I'm here for you.

tyme

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