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Struggling

AriasCasual Contributor27 July 2023, 12:39 pm AEST

Struggling

Hey, I wasn't sure if I should add to an existing post so I'm writing this one. I'm over 30 and I've recently been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD. I'm feeling extremely disconnected, lonely, anxious, and depressed. I'm seeing a psychologist.

I guess I'd like to know if other people feel this chasm between where you are and finding connections and intimacy. My whole sense of self has been lost. I don't know who I am and I don't think anyone can truly love me as I am, not in a way that really takes the loneliness away.

I haven't been in a romantic relationship for a very long time and feel like a freak but have a lack of confidence and self esteem that I let stop me from even trying.

Totally overthinking and overwhelmed. Trying to sit in the discomfort but it feels impossible to try and connect when feeling this anxious and awful.

Every decision I make feels wrong; most things just feel wrong. I don't know what to do with myself.

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In response to: Struggling

tymeModerator27 July 2023, 3:54 pm AEST

Re: Struggling

Hi @Arias ,

Thank you for opening up and sharing what's been happening for you. I hear that there are current struggles you are faced with.

Relationships, openness and trust can be tricky at the best of times. I hear your fear in that you think people might think you are a 'freak'. It sounds like there are a lot of emotions that come up for you.

I'm wondering why you feel every decision you make is wrong. Did someone say something? Or is it something you are feeling?

We are here to support you.