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OnceuponatimeContributor
I’m 51 years-old married but have no friends. I have BPD AND APD. I had lots of friends but they ghosted me. I’m too much for anyone. Wanting to hide in a hole and never come out. I am very unlikeable : bases on fact not my mind.
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tymeModerator
Hey @Onceuponatime ,
Welcome to the forums!
I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. It sounds very isolating to have these thoughts circulating in your mind continuously.
I have BPD. I don't believe I have any 'friends' either. Yet at the same time, I don't really care, because I want time and space to myself.
Or, depending on the definition of 'friend', maybe I have heaps!
What/Who do you classify as a friend?
What are the qualities of a friend you are looking for?
This is a very interesting topic of conversation, and I'd love to read your insights.
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OnceuponatimeContributor
In response to: Re: Lost and have no friends
fluffylightSenior Contributor
Hi @Onceuponatime
Making room for all your feelings today 💛 It's not easy to feel like you are unloved because of not having friends.. I go through the same thing. I find it so hard to make friends and keep them.
Your description of a friend sounds so lovely, it gives me hope that it is worth finding someone that gives us joy.
I'm interested to hear @tyme ideas - maybe it will benefit me too 🙊
fluffylight x
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