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Success and failure

MessylifeSenior Contributor02 July 2023, 10:49 pm AEST

Success and failure

What is it about depression that robs me, leaving me feeling like a failure, like no future and my dreams forever unfulfilled?

What is the use of struggling through study, trying to get an education when all the people I read about or meet have so much more than I to offer. Seems everyone is so much kinder, smarter, more outgoing, more disciplined, more beautiful, more entertaining and popular. I feel invisible and lonely and tired of competing against everyone and failing.

I want to feel I still have potential and worthy of good things as I feel like nothing I really want in life will happen, nothing will be handed to me without working harder than everyone else or disappointing those around me.

Everything is pointless. I want my life to stop spinning so I can enjoy something and share my joy.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor03 July 2023, 7:39 am AEST

Re: Success and failure

Hi @Messylife , it's true, depression seems to rob us of everything that matters 😞

But I know there is no joy in comparing ourselves to others - I know there will always be many more beautiful people, many smarter people, many kinder people, many people with every advantage.

Some people just do do it harder, and I think that would include most of us here on the forums.

Can you focus on yourself, and what you want out of life?

Another solution is to focus on those people who have less than us. There are also many, many of them, sadly.

I hope you can feel some joy in yourself soon...

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MessylifeSenior Contributor07 July 2023, 10:29 am AEST

Re: Success and failure

Yes! Focus on those less fortunate. That is my mission. My aim when study is over is to hit the road and go do community development work here and overseas.

Now my dreams of owning a countryside property (even a house) are dashed. My savings I hope to find some travels. I just hope I am not too old and decrepid to be able to do that.

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