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Winter solstice

Winter solstice

Longest night of the year and the darkness and coldness have really hit. Things seem really bleak. I've been struggling for a long time and was pacing myself to this point but can't see beyond it. I'm safe but despairing. I'm trapped in a vortex of family dysfunction from earliest years and emotional pain, received and (mea culpa) inflicted. I can't help my closest sibling - all others are estranged - and I don't seem able to extricate myself from personal difficulties and dilemmas that at present ďefine me - I have no connections or other identity. I've lost faith in my mh team.

I guess the sun will rise tomorrow, and I'll keep taking one day at a time, but I can't envision a future, my future.

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Sounds like a heavy burden to bear. I'm sorry to hear that what people have said has been bringing up memories and flashbacks. It sounds so hard to sit with.

It's totally okay if you don't feel chatty. Please know we are here for you.

I hope the building report is kind to you.... it's so stressful. I'm getting a new roof built for my garage tomorrow and that in itself was about $20k.... it's not easy at all.

Feel free to tag me if you need an ear. @Former-Member

Hugs. And hugs to your cats.

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@tyme @Former-Member I need to get some repairs and renovations done but don't know where to start.

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@Dimity depending on exactly what needs to be done a handyman might be good starting point eg Jim’s, Hire AHubby, Grey Army etc

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@tyme With my home being in a lifestyle village, building inspection has been emailed to couple of specific staff within the firm who run the lifestyle village. Have they review the report tradesman etc who are currently employed under contract by them have to fix everything. only positive thing is I won’t need to pay anything to get my home up to building standards.

For me this includes 30+ items ranging from correctly securing the colourbond room (including correctly fastening screws in every pre drilled hole and not leaving pre drilled holes without screws in some) to sealing and painting tops of internal doors.

One big item involves hardiplank on external walls that not having been cut too short by original builder in one area and in various spots on the walls, the hardiplank is lifting or warping including couple of pieces just above ground level. Due to a shower floor tile plus being cracked plus a leaking shower (plus couple items relating to water proofing), it appears my shower will need to be removed and completely replaced starting from new water proofing.

one of my neighbours is finally getting similar items fixed in their home …. They have been here approx @12mths longer than me.

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@Former-Member I'm starting by getting the gutters cleaned, then I'll check for water damage.

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Wow @Former-Member . That's a lot!

It sounds like your neighbours have been asking for a while now.

Do you have a rough estimate of how long it will take?

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No idea @tyme

Today I received a message saying a tiler will be on site and, if I’m home, will look at the tiles. Only time I’ll be home tomorrow is from 11is to 3ish. Not putting my cats in their carriers, for their safety, just in case a tiler comes.

building inspector told me that due to crack in one tile in the shower, that my entire shower will need to be removed, including all the tiles. Once that has been done new waterproofing to be applied before new tiles laid.

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What a headache! I'm not sure I've mentioned I just got a new roof and that was enough headache.

I'm hearing you about the shower. I reckon I'll need to redo my shower soon. @Former-Member

I guess for me, I can't complain... I'm not a handy person. I can't so it on my own.

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Renovating is beyond me. I'd like to start with cellular blinds but would need to clear space for measuring and installation.

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Hey @Dimity

It’s nearly a month since I came onto the forum. Forgot my password.

Sorry I wasn’t here to respond about your eye surgery but I am glad you had support. How is it going?

I am like you in that I prefer cats and a bit nervous of dogs. Glad you have the company.

Me too… re Reno’s. Did one 30-40 years ago and that’s enough.

Mostly I have been busy with music and physio and a few Lived Experience things online. Trying to be positive.

@Shaz51 @Jynx @Former-Member @tyme

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