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Grief Continued

scruffypuffballSenior Contributor01 June 2023, 7:44 pm AEST

Grief Continued

@Zeroserotonin

Mum and I had an infection in March. It was rhinovirus. It tipped her a-fib into permanent, her heart was 150bpm, by the time she got to emergency she had multi organ failure. Started to recover in the wards. On day four she had a stroke. Paralyzed on one side. Bed ridden. 90yo. Went to rehab. Not much recovery. Caught pneumonia. Now possible covid, waiting for test result. I am achy with nausea, vomiting and I think I have covid too. The hospital did not warn us there were cases and I saw her the past few days. I know there is risk but I needed to see her, wore N95. I could have avoided it if they had told me. They are short staffed with covid outbreak. She fell off her bed last night and landed on her face. Is now bruised. As she is classified as terminal, no treatment or xrays. I had to ask them to test her for covid to see if I need a test too. I am heartbroken. Lost dad last year. I have a history of abuse and cptsd. It is too much.

@ClockFaceI have been reading about your struggles and I can relate. I am glad some things went well with you lately. I hope for everyone here and for myself as well. I need something to turn around.

@LostAngelthanks for your posts on self care. they were so comforting these hard times.

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tymeModerator04 June 2023, 7:43 pm AEST

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Dear @scruffypuffball ,

I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your mother. My sincere condolences go out to you and all those who knew your mum.

It must be a difficult time for you. Please take care.

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ClockFaceSenior Contributor04 June 2023, 8:24 pm AEST

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@scruffypuffball

Im so sorry, as you say atleast shes not suffering anymore. Its hard on you though and continue to engage while you work through this.

Ive not had much experience with death, but from the little Ive had its one of the toughest things, to lose someone you love. But someone like your Mum must be incredibly difficult. Make sure you look after you, both physically and mentally.

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FlotsamSenior Contributor05 June 2023, 7:26 am AEST

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@scruffypuffball

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. You are in my thoughts.

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OwlunarSenior Contributor05 June 2023, 8:56 am AEST

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It must have been the hardest thing you ever had to go through @scruffypuffball - I am so sorry about that.

Now you have a lot of other issues to deal with - naturally - and I hope someone cares enough to help you with all of that.

Also - this has to have been exhausting for you - I really care about that - and also - I am glad we were here to help you work through the last days, your mother is at peace now - I am sure you are battling with a lot of emotions.

Stay with us - we understand - and we can't do anything - we can be here though.

Best thoughts

Owlunar

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Eve7Senior Contributor05 June 2023, 4:53 pm AEST

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My deepest sympathy to you @scruffypuffball losing your mum not something you’ll get over quickly but as you say she is now at peace.

I am here for you whenever needed 🩵💔🩵

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