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Calling helplines

Calling helplines

I call helplines a lot - Sane, Beyond Blue, Lifeline and Blue Knot. I am an annoying repeat caller and they must all be sick of hearing from me. I've been calling them a lot for the past 18 mths because I've been having a lot of bullying and harassment. Years ago I used to call Lifeline every single day on my way home from work to debrief my stressful day. Last year, I called Beyond Blue or Lifeline almost every morning on my way to work as I was suicidal. I usually didn't tell them I was suicidal but I was. I was trying to decide if I would quit my job or suicide. I ended up quitting my job. I am annoyed with Beyond Blue because the last two times I have called I told them I got legal advice about the harassment and was told there was nothing I could do as there had been no threats. Both times, the phone counsellor tried to tell me that I could get an order. Both times I told them I had spoken to a lawyer and was told I couldn't. They are not lawyers yet they argued with me. It was really irritating.

Does anyone else have that experience of phone counsellors trying to give advice about things out of their area of expertise? I was really frustrated and ended the calls.

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Great message about Lifeline @Former-Member

This is good advertising for Team Lifeline and may give other members hope and a strategy

Go Lifeline

Owlunar

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Ho @Owlunar

SANE also has its place.

Sane gives great forums from affected people directly Chatting to others affected.

Real stories

Life line is a good quick fix to vent.

Sometimes we need to vent

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@Former-Member

You are right - we should all go for Team Sane - here - I have found this the safest forum I have been in - it's a safe place to be - to read and to write.

I read back on my thread a year or so ago - I have come a long way since I joined 7 years ago now.

I am so glad I found it - I think I was given the link by Lifeline originally - which was a great thing

We can vent on Lifeline - I have run off at the mouth there I admit - mostly though it's a worthwhile conversation -

Off course - as you previously mentioned there are times to politely cut the conversation short and ring back and that's okay - mostly they are there to listen

Go Team Lifeline

Go Team Sane

Owlunar

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Thank you for sharing @Owlunar and @Former-Member and others.

Starting off as a member myself, SANE has been the most helpful in helping me connect with others. Such a safe space.

The forums are what you make it @Owlunar @Former-Member @Former-Member 🙂 We thank you all.

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Hi @Owlunar

I laugh when you say you have run off at the mouth.

Life line process is to check you are not suicidal. You have to be careful what you say.

I am not and never were suicidal.

A very few on Life line do not listen and try councelling.

I tell them my issue before calling was nothing compared to the suggestions and questions you ask and now l feel bad.

I have always been polite because l realise we all like different ways.

So l agree with you. Some are frustrating and l am sorry l call.

BUT. We have to focus on the large quanity of excellent ones and not focus on one in one hundred not good.

That is a life lesson.

Focus on the good.

We focus too much on somethjng niggly and allow that to upset our day.

We should forget the niggly think like a bad supporter and focus on the good ones

Rejoice I say. Rejoice

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@Owlunar

7 years on SANE forum

Credit to you

Also i have seen one or so funny replies on Sane.

So like Lifeline, i ignore it.

The majority are excellent

There is always one to upset the apple cart. (Whatever that means)

Good on you. 7 years in a safe place

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Hi @tyme

I am new and agree, Sane feels like a safe forum.

I like your supports l see

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Hi @Former-Member

Yes - it seems there is always something to upset the apple cart - that goes back to Ancient Rome and means something that will stuff up the whole shebang - and sometimes some does tip the apple cart and the owner has carefully picked every apple and placed it gently in the cart - then - bang - every apple is bruised.

And it seems to bruise everyone - in real life - bruised feelings can heal - and I guess in time we learn to go with the bumps and learn from them - thus - protect ourselves.

I gathered you are new here - welcome to the forum - you are already contributing in a big way - thanks for that

All the best today - we have great weather in Melbourne - I hope you have that too

Owlunar

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Suicide call back are trained psychologists, much better than lifeline.

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Hi @Owlunar

Thank you for your warm welcome.

I am also in Melbourne.

See you in the forums!

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