Gillie1Senior Contributor
Toxic abusive neighbor
I don't know how to deal with my neighbor. I don't know how to respond. We have had issues since I moved in. She is sensitive to any noise that comes from my house. She has accused me of crap that just isn't true. She mumbles abusively complaining about anything. If I try to talk calmly to her she becomes loudly abusive. I have tried writing her letters asking her to help resolve issues we are having thinking that would be less confrontational but that doesn't work. I have asked her to go to mediation and she refused.
I have tried talking with housing and their solution at the time was to suggest starting process to chuck her out which wasn't what I wanted either. She never says anything to me in front of anyone but bags me and my dog out to my neighbors any chance she gets.
Last week she got herself caught out by entering my home and abusing my cleaner for "banging on the wall " she was vacuuming and is not an aggressive vacuumer. She has been quiet since. Till this morning when she brought her dog out to the park while I was out there with mine.
My dog is still a puppy and still jumps when excited and jumped on her to say hello. We are working on it. Her dog was growling they pick up on their owners tension. She bagged me and Cookie out to the other dog owner in front of me. I believe she deliberately came out to create drama. To get a reaction, to show she can say what she wants without consequences.
I have had police over to talk with her before and that has had no effect. She doesn't know my cleaner is making a police report today about what happened last week.
I haven't wanted to but I have started the process of charging her with trespassing.
She really scared my cleaner coming in angry and abusing her and it makes my house an unsafe work environment. Never really cared enough to protect myself, it was never something I could prove anyway. But now it's effecting my dog and my support team. I don't really have a choice.
The thing is it probably won't make a difference. Infact things are probably going to get worse before getting better.
Does anyone have any advice on what to do? How do I protect myself till I can move?
