STRUGGLING

Hi @Former-Member

I'm so sorry to hear about all the bad news you have had recently 😞 It's understandable you would be struggling still, a miscarriage is such a hard thing to go through. Have you seen a specialist about what's going on?

And your father's parole hearing... Even more stress for you to deal with. Do you have to go to court? You shouldn't have to be subjected to that if it's going to make your mental health even worse. Have you spoken to a therapist about the missing hours? Hubby sounds supportive though, would he listen to you without taking you to hospital?

Sorry sometimes on the weekend there isn't many people posting... It usually gets busy during the week. Give it some time and people will respond 🙂

Take care @Former-Member

Zahlia

hi @Zahlia,

i probably should have realized that not many would be on over a weekend. i am seeing a gyno at the end of the month.

and my bio fathers parole hearing it is about 7 weeks away i wont know till the week before if i am expected to attend he is appealing his tracking thingy and lots of people have said that he wont win because of his status as a sexual predator but in new south wales he is classed as reformed as they believe that his age stops him from reoffending but considering he has broken his parole conditions twice and isnt back behind bars im worried.

yes my hubby is very supportive and it annoys him when i dont tell him these things but to him it would be a safety risk if i didnt go as i cant remember anything in those missing hours. and especially if it could affect our sons well being.

i am thinking about telling my psycologist but worried that she would put me in hospital or will tell my partner

Hi @Former-Member

Hmm... that is worrying that he broke his parole twice and didn't go back to prison. It will probably be really stressful for you leading up to it all, so just remember to use your supports and take care of yourself.

Do you think you should go to hospital if it means you might be putting your sons wellbeing at risk? Your psych isn't allowed to tell hubby anything about your sessions (unless you intend on harming yourself or others). It might be good to tell your psych so they can get to the bottom of it?

Zahlia

as i am never on my own with him as i have a support person with me wether it my partner or my sister at all time because of the stressors i have at the moment and the anxiety attacks i have had and couldnt my psychologist feel that i am harming myself by not telling the people around me

hi @utopia,

my nan normally take a letter in an reads it to the court but she is battling some health issues so she cant this time and i have thought about that but im am going to ask my psyc to put a letter in for me if she can.

my fear of them puttin me in hospital stems from childhood experiences i dont want to go to the hospital and as a child saying i didnt want to go led to me being addmitted

Hi @Former-Member,

Im so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, you must be carrying grief and fear from that as it's been recurring. I'd imagine you are still dealing with the emotional fall out from that as well.

As for the other situation with your abuser I'm not sure what to say except I would imagine that you would be feeling so many emotions but it seems like fear and anger at feeling let down are at the top of the list. I'm really glad you have support.

My thinking is that there would be a good chance of staying home with so much support if it just meant tweaking some medications for now until things are better and maybe a call from a CAT team regularly to check in and see how you are going. Are you linked in with a mental health team or do you have a private psychiatrist and psychologist? I am no expert in this so please don't see this as gospel but where possible I think the idea is to keep people at home with more added support at home. A few weeks ago I required extra help and they called it 'hospital at home' and I was given a small amount of a medication to help for a few days and support calls everyday. I hope this helps. I guess the other thing is that as daunting as hospital is any experience would be different now with the support of your partner and family. If that's what you need to get through it's only short term until you are on your feet.

I really hope this works out for you @Former-Member. You don't deserve this to keep coming back to you. Take care and best wishes 💜🤗💐

Your home life as a child sounds very complicated and difficult. I can relate in having 2 foster families of my own. I am glad you have some support around you.

Sorry about your miscarriages. Be kind to your self including your body. It may take a while to settles so keep reaching out for support.

Your son is a lovely age but also a lot of energy and needs from you. Try and care for you both for the long haul.

If some professionals can take your place in court it maight give relief .. as it sounds like you have already done very hard yards in that area before.

Take care @Former-Member

We need more people who have experienced being "in care" on the forums. Often if others post, they then drop out and stop posting. I worry about them, because often they are battling the most.