Hi there

Good morning, @Catsgirl-78

Hope the weekend is of some reprieve for you...

Welcome to the Forums. 🙏

Hi @Catsgirl-78

So much of what you share resonates for me 😔

This thread on my families journey may help you to feel not so alone.

It does often feel like a lonely road to walk.

Happy to answer any questions if it helps.

We are in settle in mode here with my Darling (wife) fresh home from.a 3 week stay in hospital.

@Catsgirl-78

That resonates with me significantly.

Im caring for my sister with MH and PH issues. My Mum doesnt come out her room, but Dad mainly looks after her. Dads active but Lymphoma. I have a range of MH and PH issues of my own. We all live together

I get basically no support tho Dad visits my sister. Its really lonely trying to help my sister who is in hospital after another suicide attempt. While recovering from a psychotic episode and now dealing with severe depression and spinal surgery.

Is SA there is Carers SA, its the offshoot of a nationwide Carers support service, something for you, not your husband. I know your thinking where do I get the time for that, but for your sake and your families sake Id suggest you make the time BPD alone would be hard to deal with.

Added to that you would likely benefit from your own psychologist to help you keep your head above water.

Im in the process of doing all this myself. Its really lonely, and hard.

Feel free to comment back, Im happy to chat further

Thank you so much for the support, it’s just nice to know I’m not the only one going through this. It so often feels like that. Thank you for checking in and telling me to look after myself, it definitely is something that doesn’t take priority and I need to get better at it.
It’s such a roller coaster living with someone with depression….you can feel like you’re walking on eggshells a lot of the time, never knowing what the mood will be like day to day. Thank you for taking the time to respond and check in on me, it really does mean a lot x

Hi @Catsgirl-78 and @Mez001 ,

Great to have you with us on the forums. Hope you are well.

Life can be a battle, but it's one worth battling for! That's why we are here to support each other.

Please feel free to tag me into your posts so that I do not miss them! You can type "@" in front of my username and then pick my name from the drop down. That way, I'll get a notification of your posts.

Thank you so much for your support and advice, I really do appreciate it. It’s so, so hard. I feel for you too. My husband doesn’t work in any full time capacity, he is a support worker (ironically) for some people on the NDIS but this can also be triggering for him a lot of the time. He has started a uni course and I’m glad as it at least gives him a purpose. As before that he would hardly ever get out of bed before lunchtime. I am concerned about whether he has the capacity to cope with the demands of uni but he’s giving it a go and that’s something I guess. There are still a lot of times when he will miss a lecture or not join a tutorial etc…because he is sore and tired or just doesn’t have the mental capacity. And this can frustrate me a lot…sometimes I just feel like I’m doing literally everything else so the least he can do is give this a red hot shot. But then I feel guilty for feeling that way…I know it’s all of his issues that cause his behaviour but sometimes you do just want to shake them! I know that probably doesn’t sound very empathetic, but I’m probably one of the most empathetic and caring people around…it’s just when this has been going on for years and years…it can start to wear you down at times. Thanks for listening to my vent. Sometimes you just need to get these things off your chest and tell someone 😊

Thank you so much for your response. Sorry for the delay too, I’ve been juggling school holidays and working and the usual challenges with my husband so it’s been a bit hectic.
This might be a silly question but how do I follow your forum? Sorry I’m still working out how to navigate this platform. Thank you for sharing your story with me, I look forward to chatting with you more soon. 😊

Thank you @tyme ! I’m still working out how to navigate this forum so thanks for the tip 😊

You sound like such a battler. Good on you @Catsgirl-78

With your husband's uni, he can ask for reasonable adjustments to be made so that he gets extra allowances. I had a reasonable adjustment plan in place. I had extra time for uni assignments, extra support and extra TLC from my co-ordinators. It was really helpful and helped me get through uni.

I glad your husband is now able to help himself a little in not only working a bit but studying.

As for you, make sure you have as much support as possible.

Please tag me into your responses so I do not miss them. All you have to do is type "@" in front of my name and a drop down will appear. e.g. @tyme .

See you around.