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toodlesSenior Contributor
Hi.
I’m safe. I’m overwhelmed being at home. I want to leave but I don’t know where to go. My life is good, I have a partner (level of support is questionable) and I live in a safe home. What more does anyone want?
I wouldn’t know where to go.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi again @toodles
I think - to varying degrees - we all prepare a face to meet the faces that we meet - after all - do we really want people to see how vulnerable we really are? I don't.
I live alone and the physical pain I have had for a long time is no secret to me - and I don't show it much when I am around people - still - the people at the pain clinic are professionals and well and truly know - they see right through my persona - I am glad about that.
We all have that need for privacy - I hear you though - you would like to be different in some way - at the same time the habits of years past have become a mask you don't want to remove. It is hard though - I get that the pain you have is not physical. It may not be mental health either - we can't tell and it seems you have really worked it into your whole presentation.
And that hurts.
All the best - I hope you can sort something out. It can be hard to move on when you have been in a relationship for a long time. I get that.
Owlunar
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
@toodles , it sounds like you are not satisfied within. Yes, you have all material things, yet there is a yearning desire for a different type of connection.
Could it be the beginning of depression?
I also had everything like had to offer, yet I was empty inside. Therapy taught me that I needed to 'find' myself and develop a sense of identity. I needed to find what would meaningful for me.
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