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Buttercup66Casual Contributor
My daughter is suffering from bpd her mood swings are horrible. I have two younger daughters they are fed up with her carry on she smashes up our home now I find she is taking ice. I cannot seem to find any help as we live 3 hours from a main city.
In response to: BPD and drug use
PaperdaisySenior Contributor
Hey @Buttercup66 Welcome to the forums! I'm sorry to hear what you're experiencing, it sounds like a really stressful time for you and your younger daughters too. Depending on her age headspace may be helpful? There might be something useful here
I'm going to tag @BPDSurvivor for you.
What supports do you have in place at the moment? I have sent you an email with some more info and a link to the SANE guided service.
Warm regards,
Paperdaisy
In response to: Re: BPD and drug use
BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hi there @Buttercup66 ,
It sounds like it’s very stressful for all involved. As much as your daughter is hurting, it’s important you younger ones feel safe in their own home.
Does your daughter think there’s an issue?
I have BPD and one of the things I’m most grateful for was having people set boundaries. That is, they let me know what was acceptable and what was not and the consequences of my behaviour. Of course I did kick against the boundaries, but under all that, I was grateful.
put it this way… your daughter’s behaviour is a result of something much deeper. Emotional anguish which she herself probably cannot understand.
I was only reading the other day that people with BPD have the most intense emotional pain. Imagine living years with this pain?
that was my life. Until eventually, people took me under their wing and I got the support I needed. It was a hard hard road.
DBT online therapy is probably the closest you’ll get if you live away from main towns. I was fortunate enough to have 18 months of intense MBT treatment.
Good news? BPD is 100% treatable. It just needs a very tailored and careful approach.
Just hold on there.
In response to: Re: BPD and drug use
Buttercup66Casual Contributor
In response to: Re: BPD and drug use
BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hi @Buttercup66 , How is your daughter? Thinking of you.
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