Jo7New Contributor
Feeling helpless
Hi everyone,
I was really happy to find this forum this evening. My siblings and I don’t know where to turn or what support is available for our mother. My mother is being cared for by her sister however the environment is toxic and I believe my mum has a trauma bond that means she is not willing or able to leave her. My mum has suffered physical and emotional abuse as a child and has had eating disorders, severe anxiety, BPD has severe codependency and now is suffering from episodes of psychosis. Since 2019 after divorcing my dad she has drastically deteriorated - she cant look after herself. She hasn’t been out in public in over four years in fear of seeing someone she knows. She is screaming out constantly and can’t control it and admits she is scaring herself. She won’t allow me to speak with her psychiatrist or doctor and her sister controls everything. We don’t know what to do. There are a lot of factors weighing in on this including wider generational trauma and mental health issues. She has been in multiple mental
health facilities however she will not participate and the last place said they couldn’t help her.
Can anyone help us with options for assisted living that would mean she is not in that environment and also any insight into the screaming episodes?
thank you
