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LooneyToonesSenior Contributor
I’m finding as I age a lot of things are changing not for the better. eg my feelings of security with partner, my tolerance levels (particularly with children but some adults as well), the state of the world, my over-reaction to situations where it’s not warranted. I have no family members to ask (estranged). Some of my friends seem to share these thoughts but seem to cope whereas I think I over-react. How do I learn not to?
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heya @LooneyToones ❤️ sounds like you've been pondering some big things and it's been a bit tough.
Can I ask what you mean by "feelings are changing" and you feel that you "overreact" to these things? I think this will help us to understand a bit better ❤️
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LooneyToonesSenior Contributor
@Former-Member @Perhaps I should have said “I KNOW” I overact but despite all the self-talk I still do it & it makes situations worse. I believe it stems from long-held issues with trust (early childhood on) and so I’ve become an analyst on practically everything. I’m fortunate in so many ways and really want to live in peace for what’s left of my life -but find it near impossible.
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Thanks for letting me know @LooneyToones ❤️
Sounds like you've given self-talk a red-hot crack. For myself, it doesn't always help me with the deeper stuff. But I've been able to find a few more things which have helped recently
But I thought I'd share a few things which might help with finding that peace.
And I know our drop-in counselling line can help give ideas to. Have you called them before? you can
What do you think?
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LooneyToonesSenior Contributor
@Former-Member @Thanks for your replies 😊 I had no idea these things existed. Just did a quick skim and they look quite helpful. Will def have a closer look at distress tolerance and my coping box. 👍. Unsure about calling -who does that take me to?? Same for webchat 🤷♀️
my usual tool for self care is withdrawal then when it all gets too hard I prefer a hand-grenade 😵💫🥹
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I hope they're useful @LooneyToones ❤️
For both the phone and webchat, you'll get connected to a SANE counsellor. Sometimes the phone line has a short wait-time. I think for both the phone and webchat, you have a 45 minute session (but it can be shorter if that's useful!).
I know some people also call when they're feeling a bit panicked and the counsellors can help with calming down a bit ❤️
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LooneyToonesSenior Contributor
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LooneyToonesSenior Contributor
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