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Consumer

I am brand new to this and so if I stumble a little or am a wee bit inappropriate or full on, forgive me. I'll try to be a good boy.

My family, which wasn't exactly perfect in the first place, exploded and pieces of it ended up all over the world. We tried so hard to look after our bipolar son(A CONSUMER!!!) but it was impossible. We reached out, no, begged, for help, that's all we wanted was a bit of help but it wasn't forthcoming. They said they would help us look after him "out in the community", but they didn't. They left us to our own, pathetic devices.

This was many years ago but nothing has changed. I left him and his mother to it. She sacrificed her way of life for him. It was the only way. His sister has nothing to do with the family now..

I could go on and on and on and on but I won't. I am the guiltiest man in the world.

I am also furious that one of the wealthiest nations on earth stood by and watched us and many more just like us, implode. Watch this space. I have much more to say.

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Yes allessandra1992,

Like what you write.
I (am hesitant but willing to)

believe in health care plans that a person can walk around with and doesn't need to tell his story over and over again....

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I am 100% with you as well!

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Hi just another 42yo.

Not sure if your last post/reply was addressed to me or to Sandy (Allexsandra).

Sorry but I'm 65, old for my age, slighly demented and get confused easily.

I noted that you did post me a "like" though.

If your reply was for me then I would love to hear more from you and maybe start up a dialogue.

GG

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Hiya Sandy,

No, we don't disagree re Stigma. In fact we agree. What I am saying is that, unlike say, a crack head, the public wouldn't normally recognise a MIP out in the community if they fell over one and couldn't possibly experience Stigma towards them.

Where I agree with you is that the "Powers That Be" have created a scenario to actually try to develop a stigma mentaity out there, starting with the label "Consumer". The inference being that there is little wrong with them(MIPS) and that they are needlessly consuming limited resources. It's called reverse psychology. Tell the public not to have stigma and they will.

In this way, if they succeed in this insideous endeavour, and I guess in part they may have already, they will have public support for pitifully limited expenditure for the treatment of MIPS. OUT IN THE COMMUNITY, UNSUPPORTED!!

Hope that all makes sense Sandy

GRay (eX LOON)

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Hey @Gray..once a loon always a loon don't you think?
Now I need to go ponder what you've written..

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Hi @Alessandra1992,

Here's the link to the thread about the Gifts of MI that I think you're referring to. Is it the right one?

CB

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Sandy, and others using "consumer". With my dumb head I am not sure, is this "another " label for a MI sufferer. If so I am bemused, why not be what we are, long wronged and labeled by non sufferers as something alien. I am a "Sufferer of P.T.S.D a psychiatric condition" as apposed to some poor person with a broken arm, leg, kidney or with a tooth ache. Tooth ache, how many times have you heard the words, Öh you poor thing, there is nothing worse than a tooth ache". I was going to go further but I just get more frustrated when I am told that I can control my MI but anything else involving pain is the worst thing anyone could be stuck with.

loopy

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Hi everyone!

Great conversation here, I loved reading this. I suppose the thing about stigma is that society needs us all to 'fit in somewhere' or pigeon hole everyone. Hence terms such as 'consumer', 'carer', 'drug addict'...and so forth. With these labels comes stigma. It can also extend to such things as 'wealthy', 'poor', 'homeless', 'good looking'....anything. Thus there can be both positive and negative stigma.

I think the fundamental thing is competition. That is, comparing people against one another. For example, if some is good looking, it's in comparison to people who aren't as apparently 'good looking', or when someone is 'wealthy', it's in comarison to others who aren't as well off. If society stopped comparing people and just let them live, we probably wouldn't have so many pigeon holes to put people into, and therefore stigma wouldn't have so much of a chance.

I guess the trick to combatting stigma is just to be yourself and try to 'fit in' at the same time. It's very hard, it's actually a paradox. I know I can't do it, and when I do, I feel awkward indeed.

Was it Shakepshere that said 'we all all but actors on the stage of life"??

I once spoke to a "carer" who told me "what is it with this term carer?? I'm a mother"

Hobbit.

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Hi Loopy,

The reason that Sandy and others use the term "Consumer" is that it was introduced by the government in the late 80's to make MI people, who I call MIPs, and their carers, who I call Loons, feel guilty about using the ever decreasing services of the government.

The inference is that MIPs don't really need to use them(the services) and it is short for OVER Consumer.

And it has caught on!!! Yaaay. Some MIPs and Loons actually like it! The government have thusly won!

All this so that the avaricious, sociopathic, politicians and co. can feather their own nests with the money thus saved.

GG.

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Hmmm well I don't think that is how the Consumer workforce views the term Consumer @Gray..
Thanks for posting the gifts of MI @CherryBomb!
I am a carer and I am a mother @Hobbit, and I know many other folks who are carers, but they are not parents.. And neither are they siblings.
Hence I prefer to use Carer as well as carers are not limited to family networks..good friends are often our backup carers..who is your nominated person in your Advance Statement?

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