Tracy11Casual Contributor
Adult Mental Health
As a parent of an adult son with mental health problems, why is it so hard to find help. Even though my son is over the age of eighteen, he is not capable of making decisions that will help his mental. He is over eighteen and therefor has the right to say and do what he wants. As a mother i find it frustrating, hopeless and heartbreaking. When i know my son is not able to make good desicions for his own wellbeing. I as a parent have to then watch my son deteriorate as a person and with his mental health every day. I have no say what could be best for my son. I watch hkm change into someone i dont recognise. He looks like my son, but thats about it. As a parent i have no rights whatsoever regarding my sons quality of life, because he is over eighteen. He is in denial, and thinks their is something wrong with everybody else except him. He can act just as well as a Hollywood movie star, when he has to see professional people in the Mental Health area. He fools them everytime, then is sent home for when he has another episode. These people are supposed to know people with mental health issues. My son has never been diagnosed. Because he is an adult and can tell them about himself. My son intimidates me, has physically, mentally and verbally abused me. I literally have nothing left in my house. During his episodes he has smashed and destroyed most things in the house. He yells, screams, swears at people who arent even their and regularly has conversations with two or three people who arent their either. He has paranoia and can go into a rage over a single word i have said. I have had to call the police many times, and have even feared for my life. He yells at swears at the neighbours, and still when he goes to the Psych Ward at the hospital, within twenty minutes he is back home, because their is nothkng wrong with him. I feel like im going insane. And still he can decide what is best for himself. As a mother, i am supposed to watch my son deteriorate every single day and become someone i dont even recognise or know, until he dies or myself. My son was incarcerated recently because the police were sick of coming to the house. Their words, told to both my son and I. I was told they wouldnt come anymore unless i charged my son. I couldnt do it. I told them all i wanted was for my son to get the help he need, i didnt think jail was where he should be. I wanted him to get professional help for his mental health. I was told that if i charged him, he would get help. Rubbish. He was a first time offender with mental health issues and was incarcerated. I believe, he was in the too hard basket and the police did what was easier for them. My son and i both desperately need help. I feel like i have failed my son as his mother, and beat myself up everyday. I would like to know where we can both go for help. I dont believe im the only mother with an adult in this situation.
