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I need some advice

BlairNew Contributor

I need some advice

Okay, hi I’ve never done this sort of thing before but i need some advice. I suffer from depression, anxiety and ADHD. My boyfriend of 4 years is moving away to another state and the end of this year and I don’t know what to do. we have been joined at the hip ever since we met and he’s my best friend. i am very prone to getting attached to people really easy and he is the one person i am attached to. i pretty much rely on him. how should i handle him moving away and what can i do so i don’t get on a downwards spiral again?

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In response to: I need some advice

hanamiSenior Contributor

Re: I need some advice

Hi @Blair

Thank you for sharing your story on the forums. I'm one of the peer workers here at Sane. It sounds pretty full on that your boyfriend is moving interstate. Are you staying together and doing long distance? Did he ask you to go with him? My own son is moving overseas soon and he and his girlfriend have decided to have a break. He asked her to go but she didn't want to. They both seem to want different things and are travelling different paths so it will be good for them to have a break. She has anxiety and PTSD so she will struggle I think, especially at first.

Sending hugs

Hanami

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Unknown userMember

Re: I need some advice

Hey @Blair

Loss is soooooo hard! As @hanami asked, what are your plans for your relationship after the move?


Depression, anxiety and ADHD can sometimes make it hard to make connections in the first place, let alone lose them as major supports. Maybe you could join some social groups to help make more connections? What kind of hobbies are you in to?

Hugs,

Sunshineandsea xx

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