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Rabbitohs2022Contributor
Hi All,
Do you have any tips on how to deal with an ex-partner who I share a male three year old child with? Has anybody here dealt with a separated partner before?
My ex-partner does not want any communication. I currently see my son one weekend per month at a contact centre. It has been awful dealing with false accusations during the custody process.
Do you know if over time things change with ex-partners?
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Unknown userMember
hey @Rabbitohs2022 ❤️
I don't have any specific experience with this, but just want to say that my heart goes out to you.
I thought I'd tag some people who might be able to offer some words of wisdom, firstly @Appleblossom and also some of our community guides @Anastasia @AussieRecharger @BPDSurvivor @Faith-and-Hope @HenryX @jem80 @Judi9877 @NatureLover @outlander @Shaz51 @ShiningStar @Snowie @Hams @wellwellwellnez @Zoe7 @Aniela @Boo13 @maddison @pinklollipop15 @Eve7
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Sadly I have had experience with such things from 1986 til now. @Rabbitohs2022
Little boys need their dads, to grow into effective men.
Life is complicated.
Each situation is unique.
Take Care
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14girlNew Contributor
I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this, false accusations from controlling ex, it's very hard for you as a parent the mother. Your heartache and worry is valid.
I have experienced a difficult parenting journey with a NPD & BPD ex and he is very vindictive. I advise you to always trust your maternal instincts, follow self- care and stay strong so you can keep advocating for your child.
Make a plan of how to change this situation for you and your boy, there is alot of help available and I think things can get only get better for you soon :))
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