Need Advice

Hi @Sprezzi ,

Thank you for posting. I'm sorry this is happening to you and your mother. I wish I could share more, but I don't know enough in this area.

But please know you are not alone. I hope others reading will be able to share their insights into what is happening for you.

Do you have any phone numbers from your sister's rehab that you can phone to ask questions? Perhaps they direct you?

Sitting with you, tyme

Hi Tyme

Thank you for your kind words - I plan on calling Rehab facility on Monday but to be perfectly honest I don’t know what they can do - its been 2 long years of in and out and it never helps - but will continue to try anything at this stage - its tough

Cheers and thanks again

Sprezzi

At this point, I'm not sure I'd be looking at how to change your sister @Sprezzi . If 5 years of in and out hasn't done anything, I'm wondering whether she herself wants the change.

It reminds me of a lived experience talk I heard recently about how hard it is to 'recover' from gambling. It has to be a whole-hearted commitment, otherwise it doesn't work.

I'm more wondering about you contacting the facility so you can tell them YOUR situation and ask for people you can contact to get help for yourself. I think this is of utmost importance, especially seeing your mother is not well - neither of you should have to be subjected to the bullying and hurt from your sister.

If/when your sister is sober, are you able to speak to her to determine if she actually wants help?

tyme

Hi @tyme

When she is sober she never speaks - She is lonely which I understand but she does not want to help herself - she has been back at work for 3 days and is surrounded by nice caring people - just lost - I am calling rehab on Monday to seek help

Cheers

Sprezzi

Arghhh... it's so tough @Sprezzi .. tough on everyone.

I look forward to hearing how you go on Monday when you phone them. In the meantime, I'll keep my ears and eyes open.

Which state/territory do you reside? There are some state-specific services.

@Sprezzi hunny my dad was an alcholic. he made our lives hell. best thing he did was die at 76. i am here for you

Hi Greenpea,

Thank you for your thoughts - it means a lot - I will never give up but its super tough - the hardest is my mother - she is kind, generous, compassionate and she deserves so much better.

Cheers

Sprezzi

Hi Tyme

Gold Coast

Cheers

Sprezzi