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Not loving myself

Not loving myself

Hey, this is my first time ever doing something like this but I needed someone to talk to even if no one actually listens.
I never realised how hard it has been on me to grow up ugly, all my friends get showered in compliments and get boyfriends and live happy normal lives with them. Meanwhile I have never held hand with a boy. No boy has ever looked at me and it hurts so bad I just wanna :pistol:. But they would never understand. I’m fat and ugly and I’m a ranga but hopefully soon I will be shown mercy and god will end this struggle for me.

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I'm not marriade. Didn't do well with girls. I don't think I'm meant to get marriade. I found it hard making friends. I make friends with people in need. Other friendless people. One tells me stories which I wonder if are true. I don't mind if they are not. He is my friend. He comes over my way. We had such a good day Saturday. Lunch. Then a Cafe for hot chocolate. @pjc1965 then a park where we chatted for an hour. I cane home and was exhausted so had a sleep. I talk to people at bus stops

The elderly are easy to converse with. People standing out front of their home. Maybe I'm the only one they talk to all day. Weather, what's on the news, footy even though I don't watch it. I love God and He loves me. I All the best.

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Hi and welcome, @woah , it's good to have you here.

I'm sorry you feel like that 😞

I'm concerned by this:


@woah wrote:

but hopefully soon I will be shown mercy and god will end this struggle for me.


I'm wondering, do you have feelings of wanting to die or commit suicide?

Or have I read it wrong?

A handy forum tip is if you type @ and then click on a name in the drop-down box, that person will get a notification and won't miss your reply.

I hope you find the forums supportive, @woah ...

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@NatureLover what happens if I tell you the truth?

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@woah you're allowed to say on the forums that you're suffering from SI (suicidal ideation). However, you're not allowed to mention any suicide methods.

If you mention that you've got an active plan for a suicide attempt, you will be contacted by a moderator by email. Depending on what you say, emergency services might be called by the moderator.

However, please feel free to mention you have SI - it's a common occurrence on the forums sadly.

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@woah

You sound like you are in incredible pain.


what can you do to find your own happiness? Lear a new skill, get in touch it’s nature? The most important relationship you can have is the one with yourself.

You don’t need to worry about what others have. Worry about fulfilling your own needs.

there will be someone out there for you. But right now maybe it’s best to work in your relationship with yourself. That way you will be ready for a relationship when the time comes.

and those thoughts you have about yourself only have power if you believe them. Remember, you do t have to believe your thoughts and thoughts are not facts. You can change your thoughts with help and practice from a psychologist.

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@pjc1965 how are you today?

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Hi @pjc1965 ,

How are you today?

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Hi. Got the equipment I need to clean mould off of my ceiling. If it works will 2 neighbours ceilings too! @pjc1965

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I thought I had posted to @woah how is she today but my reply may have gone to you. I hit reply at the bottom of her post. @pjc1965

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Thank you so much for asking that actually means a lot. Today wasn’t the best day but it makes me feel better talking to u guys. How was your day?

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